tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8991856767809065952.post9136186310794144809..comments2023-08-26T11:57:19.513-04:00Comments on The Cinematic Symbolism blog: 3 rules for Black 'Swirlers'...MontUHURU Mimiahttp://www.blogger.com/profile/02217151807313509799noreply@blogger.comBlogger3125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8991856767809065952.post-69091757832853182812018-04-05T00:11:05.358-04:002018-04-05T00:11:05.358-04:00Nice to hear from you. I read and re read your rep...Nice to hear from you. I read and re read your reply twice. And I realized something: <br /><br />I have been conditioned to be attracted to and prefer White and non Black men by the media and my environment. <br /><br />My father was never in my life growing up. So I never really grew up to see a positive Black male role model besides a male cousin. I started to become attracted to non Black men at an early age from watching television shows that showed them in a much more positive light ie romantic interests and fatherly figures. I developed a crush on Uncle Jesse from Full House because I found him attractive and he seemed like a father figure that I never had in my life. To this day, I still find him attractive. <br /><br />Then I moved to Florida and started to live among and hang around White people. The area that I grew up in and still live in is predominately White and Hispanic. Throughout my childhood, I had crushes on various non Black men including one in senior year. But none of these crushes went any further than infatuation. Even when I went away to college, it was pretty much the same despite the fact that I only formed one semi relationship with a Cuban but it didn't last. <br /><br />Another reason why I am drawn to non Black men is because I never feel quite attractive enough for men in my own race. I have always been rejected and called ugly by Black men. The beauty standard in the Black Community is light skin, curvy body and long hair. I am petite, dark skin and have shoulder length hair. I have faced scrutiny for my lack of good looks so to say. Of course, there are non Black men that don't find me attractive but none of them have dogged me out the way African American men do. This is a major reason why I usually stick to non Black men when it comes to dating. Also I live in a non Black area so it doesn't help much. My growing angst about this whole subject was what led me to listen to Christelyn Karazin and Breukelen Bleu. I used to love their rants against Black men and the Black Community and adhered to their mindset. I thought that I had somehow freed myself from the limitations of the Black Community and wider society. How wrong was I!<br /><br />However I am realizing how my internalized racism and inferiority complex is detrimental to my psyche. Particularly in this day and age. We live in a society where African Americans are at risk of being murdered by the police more than ever, we have a White supremacist named Donald Trump in the White House and we are more divided more than ever as a country. Tell me, how will the BWE/swiirling help this situation in our country?<br /><br /><br /><br />It wouldn't.Coco Sistahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12458919026799559863noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8991856767809065952.post-70004673006763003182018-03-26T17:20:23.630-04:002018-03-26T17:20:23.630-04:00"Coco"...
You say you've always bee..."Coco"...<br /><br />You say you've always been "genuinely" attracted to "non-Black" men...and I can relate, cause I used to feel the same way about white and non-Black women.<br /><br />That's until I did the subconscious work to rid myself of the anglophilic conditioning I'd gotten from my pre-teens, up until then. And what I found was the programming I got in this white fascist social order (and in the american (mis)educational system especially) was so deeply embedded in my subconscious, that it "felt" natural.<br /><br />I also grew up feeling “socially awkward”, and that too felt natural, cause I had no other emotion to compare it to. And those “feelings” didn’t end, ‘til I did the subconscious work to get my confidence back from inferiority complex(es) america’s social order had feed to me, and us.<br /><br />The point I’m making here is “dysfunctions”, if they’re programmed into us early enough, can feel like we're born with them. And that pretty much sums up the self-hatred that Black people are taught, and most of us will die with, living here in america.<br /><br />Now, I know I’ve told this story many times, but it’s just so pertinent to what you and I have gone through, that I gotta’ retell it here. Once in my freshman year of high school, a beautiful young sista said to me, when we were alone: “Man, God didn’t give us (Black people) nothin’—he gave us big lips and nappy hair.” Check that out, she said, “God”, didn’t give us nothin’. Meaning, white fascists had taught her that in regards to our looks, that our very God had forsaken us. And you know what I said to that sista? Nothing. Cause I “felt” the same way.<br /><br />Understand that the REAL “race war”, is and forever will be taking place in the subconscious mind. Cause if whitey controls that, he understands he doesn’t have to destroy us, cause we’ll destroy ourselves.<br /><br />Now, the reason I wrote this post (and this Blog quite frankly), is to explain why our people exhibit such high levels of dysfunction, and to put these dysfunctions into the context of the white fascism that created them.<br /><br />Cause quite frankly, NONE of our dysfunctions are natural to us—NOT ONE. And once we realize that, we can start working to get rid of them.<br /><br />So truthfully, I’d love for you to change your mind and start dating brothas again. But even if you don’t, I want you to know “why” you “feel” the way you feel.<br /><br />And that something that “went off” in you, was your mature mind deciphering that the women you mentioned, subconsciously hate themselves for being Black.<br /><br />It’s the same epiphany that made me stop looking at and listening to Tommy Sotomayor.<br /><br />Cause truth be told, Kristelyn Karazin and Tommy Sotomayor, are afflicted with the same self-hatred. They just don’t know it.<br /><br />Now, the wonderful part about this whole debacle is, your being 22, means you have the time to recondition yourself out of those “feelings”.<br /><br />And like anything else you endeavor to do, the hardest part is getting started, and the best time to start is NOW.<br /><br />And I thank you for your candor Coco. Cause what inspires me to write this blog, is the hope that I can have any and every Black person that ventures here, feeling better about themselves when they leave. And I hope I’ve done just a little bit of that for you, here.<br /><br />So again, thanks so much for your comment!<br /><br />P.S.<br /><br />In regards to “techniques” of reconditioning the subconscious mind, there are hundreds out there, but if you look on my page titled: “The Ancient Future”, “Part 14” has a particular one I started out with, and that’s proven itself to be effective. So I hope that helps! MontUHURU Mimiahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02217151807313509799noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8991856767809065952.post-40242832318552539422018-03-20T21:11:11.933-04:002018-03-20T21:11:11.933-04:00Personally, I have found myself trying to evolve p...Personally, I have found myself trying to evolve pass this mindset myself. I had sworn off Black men for years but I am questioning this decision. But I never officially dated outside of my race. None of the non Black men that I showed interest in really seemed genuine nor did it seem right so I never developed a romantic relationship with one. The truth is I lack experience with relationships period and socially awkward. The only reason why I was into this whole swirl thing due to low self esteem and feeling unwanted by my own. <br /><br />I was a huge follower of Christelyn Karazin, Breukelen Bleu, Simone 56 whatever BWE/swirler/pseudo Black feminist channel centered around Black women's victimization in the hands of Black men and the need to divest/swirl with White men. I used to follow these women and repeat their rhetoric as a way to sooth my self esteem and feel better about myself. Then I will leave those spaces, feeling worse than ever. Chasing and pursuing non Black men was a euphemism for me. Yes, I am and have always been genuinely attracted to non Black men but I always used it as a way to justify swearing off Black men. Then something inside of me went off. <br /><br />I started to wake up and stopped frequenting such spaces. I acknowledged my issues with my self esteem and on the mission to loving myself more. <br /><br />By the way, I am only twenty two and trying to get my life together. <br /> Coco Sistahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12458919026799559863noreply@blogger.com