Why Kerry Washington and Dave Moscow broke up and the plight of Black college grads (Part 3)...What do Dave Moscow and Heidi Klum have in common?

David Raphael Moscow was born in New York City on November 14^th, 1971. Patricia Sterner, his mother, was raised in Murray, Utah as a mormon. Dave's father Jon Moscow, was raised in the jewish faith.

Now, even though Dave's bios say he wasn't raised in either religion, whether he knows it or not, his recent actions directly reflect these religious doctrines. Especially those of the mormon church.

For example, check out these two passages of the mormon bible:

Alma 3:6
"And the skins of the Lamanites were dark, according to the mark which was set upon their fathers, which was a curse upon them because of their transgression and their rebellion against their brethren, who consisted of Nephi, Jacob, and Joseph, and Sam, who were just and holy men."

3 Nephi 2:14-15
" And it came to pass that those Lamanites who had united with the Nephites were numbered among the Nephites; And their curse was taken from them, and their skin became white like unto the Nephites."

But I'll touch a bit more on this later...

Dave Moscow met Kerry Washington in high school and they started dating in 2002. They got engaged in October of 2004, and split in 2007.

As you can see, for three years Dave and Kerry were engaged, until Dave called the wedding off. And the reason he gave for not walking down the aisle with Kerry, was his having to deal with 'personal problems'. But a couple of years back, on September 6^th, 2014 to be exact, Dave married his fiancee Karen Riotoc.

Now, I did say I'd offer a meditative technique for the first post of the new year, but I ran into this piece of information in the last days of December. This info. prompted me to create this post's header, and after that, this post pretty much wrote itself. So to those wanting to look at my meditative technique(s) ('FTBF'...I see you!), they will indeed be in my next post...but again, I had to get this topic completed and published before I could move on.

So with all that said, I'm guessing Dave finally found a solution to whatever personal problems he'd encountered with Kerry years before. At least enough to finally commit himself to marriage.

Heidi Klum was born and raised in a town outside Cologne, Germany, and is the daughter of Günther Klum, a cosmetics company executive and Erna Klum, a hairdresser. After being convinced to enroll in a national modeling contest called 'Model 92', she was voted the winner of the pageant on April 29^th of that year. A modeling contract came with the win, which she accepted a few months after graduating high school.

Fast forward to 2003's 'GQ' Awards in London. This is where Heidi first met the singer Seal. Weeks later, they stayed in the same hotel, and upon seeing Seal in biker shorts after his gym work-out, she proclaimed that she was impressed with his 'package'. Mind you, Heidi was pregnant with another man's child at the time.

But let me tell you what Heidi was really thinking when she saw Seal.

In 2003, Heidi was facing a personal dilemma, which was her being a pregnant and unwed 'super-model'. Now, she could have gotten an abortion, but if the press got wind of it, it wouldn't have only damaged her image, but it probably would've ruined any sponsored endorsements she had at the time, or might have been able to get in the future.

So with Heidi being pregnant and unwed, she thought no white, asian, or latin man, especially one who was a rich celebrity, was gonna' accept her with another man's baby in her belly...but then she thought, a Black man probably would. And when she saw Seal, she saw the perfect victim.

Seal reportedly told a journalist, that a month into their courtship, Heidi told him she was pregnant. To which Seal replied, “Already? That's amazing.”

To which Heidi replied, “Not with you stupid.”

Seal said there was an awkward silence after that; then he replied, "It doesn't change the way I feel about you, 'cause the fact that you're here tells me you think a lot about me."

That's when Heidi knew her hunch was right.

Heidi and Seal married in 2005. He was there for the birth of Heidi's first child, Leni, and he officially adopted her in 2009.

Now, I think everyone reading this knows how this marriage ended. Basically, Heidi wound up cheating on Seal with her personal trainer. She also proudly professed to having sex with this guy while still wed to Seal. And to people who say Seal drove her away because he was some sort of control freak, I ask this: if Seal did the right thing by Heidi when she was pregnant with someone else's child, why couldn't she at least wait to give Seal a proper divorce before she hopped in bed with another man?

Well, it's the same reason Dave Moscow stated he called off his marriage to Kerry because of 'personal problems'...and the reason in this...

Neither Dave nor Heidi ever truly loved their Black partners, because they ultimately thought that as white celebrities, they were too biologically superior to Black people, to fully commit to one. And chances are, they don't know this 'consciously' themselves.

And the people Dave and Heidi chose to be with after they left Kerry and Seal are a direct reflection of that. Let me explain what I mean...

Karen Riotoc, Dave's wife, works for 'Radium One'; which is an online advertising company. And we already know that Heidi took up with a scruffy looking personal trainer. So their choices of spouses and love interests are saying that any 'working-class' white person is more valuable to them than any Black multimillionaire celebrity will ever be.

See, both Dave and Heidi plied their trades in the 'liberal arts' community, where inter-ethnic dating is a bit more acceptable. But when it came to 'settling down' with a Black person, their subconscious white supremacist mind-sets kicked in...and their Black partners got kicked out.

Now, to Black men and women reading this who consider themselves 'swirlrs', I want you especially to take notice. The reason I wrote the original post of this series was to highlight the fact that too many Black men and women, especially with college degrees, are winding up oversexed and alone at fifty after spending years being a sex toy for every white and non-Black person who comes within a foot of them.

Now, I'm not saying ALL white people are like this, but our Diaspora needs to understand that the majority of working-class and 'upper-scale' white folks will always side with the white elite's derogatory opinions of us, because the american social order benefits them most. And they'll even side with white elites while they suffer their abuses, simply because of skin color. Ditto for every kind of non-Black person.

And another message I wanna' send out to Black 'swirlrs' is this...if you've committed yourself to dating non-Black men and women, then I know nothing you'll read here is gonna' dissuade you from doing so. But for the sake of our Diaspora, you need to hold fast to this manifesto, even when the well runs dry with non-Black dates and mates. And let me explain what I'm talking about...

What I've noticed is when Black 'swirlrs' run into any kind of dry spell regarding their choices of non-Black bed partners, they tend to default to dating Black men and women again; and you/they don't realize how destructive this is to the Black Diaspora. 'Cause what ultimately happens is, when you do find a Black person to date, you'll inevitably put on your most congenial face at first. But after a week or so, you'll start treating this Black man or woman like trash, cause you never wanted to be with one of us in the first place.

And ultimately, this will result in you and that Black person breaking up. But what it does more, is dissuade Black people who genuinely want to date one of us, from dating other Black people. It reinforces in that Black person you dated and treated like crap, reasons why they should give up on their own kind, and this lessens the pool of available and 'un-jaded' Black men and women for the rest of us.

So to the Black 'swirlrs' reading this, if you find yourself without a white or non-Black person to date or fornicate with, just double or triple your efforts to find another one...AND LEAVE BLACK PEOPLE ALONE!!

Remember, you're not just hurting yourself, but the rest of us as well.

And one last message to Black 'swirlrs'...if you do wind up as one of those statistical Black men and women who are oversexed and alone at fifty after being a 'handi-wipe' for the sexual gratification of every kind of non-Black person, please don't blame this on not being able to find a 'good' Black man or woman.

What a lot of middle-aged swirlrs will think or say to themselves is, I wouldn't have wound up this way if I'd found a 'decent' Black person to be with. But the truth you're hiding from yourself is you never wanted to be with one of us anyway.

So if you find that you're drinking yourself to sleep at night, wondering why you never found Mr. or Mrs. Right to settle down with, know that it's your fault for sippin' the white fascist kool-aid that told you every kind of non-Black person was gonna' treat you better than one of your own kind.

After a decade of unzipping your fly or spreading your legs for every white, spanish, asian and american indian person you bumped into, somewhere down the line you should have realized, the overwhelming majority of these people think that's all we're good for.

And like Sam Jackson said in Spike Lee's 'Do The Right Thing': “That's the triple truth, Ruth.”

Welcome to 2016 family!

Later...

MontUHURU Mimia

Why Kerry Washington and Dave Moscow broke up (Part 2)...Dave's friend and Kerry's doting eyes...(Special Pre-Independence Day edition)

On June 5th, of 2014, at 12:22 p.m., someone claiming to be Dave Moscow's 'friend' wrote this reply to my post titled, 'Why Kerry Washington and Dave Moscow broke up and the plight of Black college grads...': 

'Wow, this was the dumbest thing I've ever read. David and Kerry's breakup had nothing to do with race. I know David and he is no "white supremacist!" They broke up cuz of Kerry's actions, which I won't mention out of respect!'

So, I responded:

'Well...since you 'know' Dave, why don't you tell me what really happened?'

And he replied:

'If they wanted it to be public info, they would have told the public. I wouldn't be just telling you, I'd be telling everyone that reads this and I can't do that. Plus, I'd be devastated if David saw it!'

Finally, I said:

'I think it's a pretty safe bet that Dave Moscow is NOT gonna' read this Blog.'

And I never heard back from Dave Moscow's 'friend' again...and I suspect I never will, here's why...   

I'd like everyone reading this post, especially Black men and women, to examine my header's triptych for a hot second. *Note: if you'd like to expand my header, you can actually click onto it. 

Do you notice any kind of pattern?

Do you notice how, in every picture, Kerry is looking directly at Dave, while Dave looks away from her?  

This reminds me of the whole 'Bennifer' debacle; a.k.a, when Jennifer Lopez (J.Ho, I mean, J.Lo) and Ben Affleck were dating. You notice how Jennifer's eyes are full of affection for Ben, and he's looking away from her...just like Dave Moscow's doing to Kerry.  

And we all know what Ben did shortly after his tryst(s) with Jen. 

What Ben and Dave have in common, is not only are their eyes looking beyond these women, but their minds are too. 

Now, Dave's 'friend' wants me to believe that Kerry committed some sort of act that jeopardized her relationship with Dave Moscow. But if you look at their pictures, you'll see the hyper-doting stares Kerry gives Dave. In the last pic of my header, the one where Kerry's wearing a white dress, she's grabbing onto Dave likes he's a life raft and she's in the middle of the ocean. With this act she's saying how she not only desperately wants to be with her white beau forever, but how she'd do anything to keep him by her side.  

So the question I'm posing is this: judging by these pictures, do you think Kerry would do anything to risk losing Dave? 

Of course she wouldn't. 

But do you think Dave's 'friend' would acknowledge that? 

Hell no!

What Dave's friend is really saying, is Dave, an upstanding, gainfully-employed, white man, couldn't possibly have been stringing Kerry along for three years of an engagement, knowing he was eventually gonna' get rid of her. 

Could he?

Ya' damn right he could...and did! 

You can see in Dave's stares away from Kerry, that he understood, this wasn't the love of his life. For Dave, Kerry was someone he knew cared enough about him not to leave, so he enjoyed this fact, while having his eyes out for other women.  

Now, addressing what this friend of Dave's says about David not being a white supremacist, well, I never said he was...consciously. Subconsciously though, Dave and Ben share the same affliction; that being, they both feel too genetically superior being white men, to marry a 'non-white' woman. And they may not know this themselves, consciously, but they sure as hell are acting it out. 

Now, when I wrote the first part of this post almost two years ago, I had no idea it would turn out to be my most popular. But what I'm hoping more than anything is this, that Black men and women got the message behind it, that we should stop behaving like sex toys, or what I like to call 'human handi-wipes' for the sexual gratification of every non-Black person.  

Too many Black men and women, especially with college degrees, are winding up oversexed and alone at fifty after spending decades being 'pleasure pumps' for every white, spanish, asian and american indian man or woman; and it's time we have some RESPECT FOR OURSELVES!

But if we really want to talk about having respect for ourselves, then we have to talk about reversing the decades of self-hating conditioning we're nearly force fed, by the white fascist american system. Especially in american schools.

'Cause Black men and women are constantly bombarded with the message that we should hate ourselves and each other, and we get this more than any other ethnic group on the planet, because we have the most genetic power to breed white people out of existence.  

So to white fascists, a Black man or woman living anywhere is a threat to them everywhere.

Now, if you're a Black man or woman reading this, whichever method you use for the riddance of this self-hatred is up to you, whether it be chanting, meditation, hypnosis...just do what works. 

And if you truly haven't got a vested interest in changing your own mind, then contribute some kind of resource to a 'home-schooling' cooperative, that is teaching our children the basics of reading, writing and 'rithmetic, without the white fascist message of self-hatred they get in mainstream american schools. This way, the next generation can reverse our Diaspora's dysfunctions, which are born of white fascism.   

Now, I'd also like to say, that what happened to Kerry Washington is not exclusively indicative of what Black female celebrities go through as a matter of course, just ask the singer Seal; he'll tell ya' I'm not lying.  

And in Seal's case, what that super-skank, I mean super-model, Heidi Klum did to him, might be even more insidious than what happened to Kerry. Let me explain...

In 2003, Heidi Klum was in a quandry. 

Heidi was pregnant with a man's baby, and was no longer in a relationship with him. Now, being that she is a white woman, who had the 'super-model' moniker to live up to, it would've been bad business for her to have a child out-of-wedlock. Mind you, she could've had an abortion, but if the media found out, it would stain her image and she might've lost valuable endorsements and other multi-media deals she was tethered to. But what Heidi knew more than anything, was that no white, spanish, or asian man with any kind of celebrity status, was gonna' marry her with some other guy's baby in her belly.

But she figured a Black man would.

Enter the celebrity singer Seal... 

Now, Heidi said she was first enamored with Seal, while they were staying in the same hotel and she saw him coming from the gym wearing biker shorts. But what she was more enamored by, was her chance to get hitched to someone with a celebrity profile that would accept her for the hussy she is, and has proven herself to be. 

She began having sex with, I mean, dating Seal immediately. 

And according to Seal, as per his explanation to a journalist, about a month after meeting Heidi, she told him she was pregnant. 

To which Seal responded, "Already? That's amazing."

And this was Heidi's reply: "Not with you, stupid."

Seal said an awkward silence arose after that; then he said, "It doesn't change the way I feel about you, 'cause the fact that you're here tells me you think a lot about me."

This was the moment Heidi realized her gamble paid off. 

Now, this is how I know the Black Diaspora, receives the same kind of self-hating (mis)education globally. See, if Seal knew his real worth, there's no way he would of took up with this skank. He probably would've still given her the whole, 'this doesn't change how I feel about you' line; and then did what any self-respecting man would've done...which is quickly phase that tramp out of his life. But because he was taught to feel inherently inferior to white people, he probably felt Heidi was doing him a favor. 

And for anyone believing the hype about Heidi breaking up with Seal because he was emotionally abusive, or some kind of control freak, I ask you; after Seal did the right thing by marrying her skank ass, knowing she was pregnant, why couldn't she at least give Seal a proper divorce before she got on the 'ho train' with her personal 'trainer'?

One thing we need to realize by Heidi's actions is this...

HEIDI KLUM NEVER LOVED SEAL!

NOT FOR A MOMENT.

She married him solely to save her reputation, and her career. 

Unfortunately for Seal, he'll be tethered to this tramp for the rest of his life behind having children with this harlot. 

Now, I remember when Seal did an interview with Tavis Smiley on PBS; he showed up after his split with Heidi wearing Black finger nail polish. This basically told the world how he was mourning. So, the real tragedy of this whole fiasco, is if Heidi wanted to reconcile with Seal, more than likely, he'd take her back. 

So ultimately, the moral of these stories and this post is, if you're a Black man or woman who's completely given up on finding a 'good' Black man or woman to date and ultimately marry; and you're hell-bent on dating and mating with anyone but one of your own kind...it's imperative that you demand respect. 

'Cause every non-Black person will see you as a prospect for fast sex, and ultimately, that's all they think we're good for. 

Now, are there exceptions to this rule? Absolutely; and are they few and far between? Again...ABSOLUTELY!

So to the Black Diaspora, I'll say, let's stop goin' out like Kerry and Seal...and let's start lookin' out for one of our own kind; 'cause contrary to popular belief, with a Black man or woman, you'll be more likely to find Mr. or Mrs. Right, and less likely to get burned by someone who views you as mr. or mrs. right now.

Later...

MontUHURU Mimia

P.S.

If you'd like to see the original post I wrote about Seal, you can do that here. 

And...

If you wanna' check out the first post I wrote about Dave Moscow and Kerry Washington, it's easy to find at the top of my 'Posts people dig most' list, or you can just click here.

Seal, Heidi Klum and the specter of doomed marriages...

Recently, I viewed Seal performing his song 'Whirlpool' on YouTube.

Now, between Seal's melancholic delivery of the song's lyrics and the lovely rhythms of the acoustic guitar on this track, this song is nothing short of mesmerizing. 

Then I realized, I've always been interested in Seal's backstory, but I've never run across any articles that dealt with it in a really in depth way. 

Beyond all the hype about his breakup with Heidi Klum, I wanted to know more about him...and I wanted to know why his marriage failed. So I endeavored to find out. 

And here's what I found...   

Seal Henry Olusegun Olumide Adeola Samuel was born in Nigeria on February 19th, 1963. One of Seal's names, Olusegun means 'God is victorious' in the Yoruba language.

His parents, a Nigerian mother and Brazilian father, Adebisi and Francis Samuel, expatriated to London, England shortly after he was born. 

They gave Seal up for adoption when he was months old and Seal grew up in a foster home in Westminster, a bustling London city. 

*Side Note: The distinctive scars on Seal's face come from the auto-immune disease Lupus, and the strain Seal is afflicted with is known for affecting the skin above the neck. 

At the age of four, Seal's mother re-claimed him for two years, but took ill and had to return to Nigeria. Seal then went to live with his father; and for the next several years, Seal endured his wrath. While talking to a journalist, Seal once described his father as: "...an embittered man of lost opportunity." Seal also said of his father: "...unfortunately for him, he was brought up by a strict disciplinarian, in a different culture..."

This lead to Seal leaving home at the age of 15.  

He recounts the years after leaving home as ones where he slept on subways and did anything he could to survive.

He told a reporter of a certain subway line he favored; saying that after the subway's workers cleaned the tracks and platform, he'd seek refuge in a certain alcove besides the tracks where it was warm.  

Seal temporarily dropped out of high school, but re-entered a short time later and went on to earn an associates degree in architecture. 

After his school career, Seal worked a succession of odd jobs, which included: a stint at McDonalds, posting flyers for call girls in London's red box telephone booths, working as an electrical engineer and designing leather clothes. 

While doing this, he began singing regularly in bars and clubs; this led to him securing a lead singers position in a funk band called 'Push'. Eventually, he toured japan with this group in the mid-80's.   

While in asia, Seal joined a blues band in Thailand. Shortly thereafter, he traversed through india on his own. 

In 1990, Seal contributed lyrics and vocals to the song 'Killer', produced by a musically collaborative friend of his, 'Adamski'.  

After securing a production deal, Seal began putting together tracks for what would become his debut album 'Seal'. 

In 1991, Seal released his first single 'Crazy' from his album, and the song was an instant hit. Beyond the hypnotic musical swells and pulse of the track, I think what intrigued people most was the song's chorus: "But we're never gonna' survive unless, we are a little crazy."

It not only spoke to what Seal had been through personally, but it captured the socio-political zeitgeist, in that, every global citizen was seeing the sham of world governments and their institutions. 

It also spoke to the fact that no one's coming to save us but ourselves.

The single 'Crazy' was followed up by the songs 'Future Love Paradise', 'The Beginning' and 'Violet'. Seal's debut album went on to sell a million copies in the UK, and 3.5 million worldwide. 

But adjusting to his new found success was hard for Seal; during this time, Seal was involved in a nearly life-threatening car crash, he had a double pneumonia, and in another bout of bad luck, a person was shot right next to him while he walked on Sunset Boulevard in Hollywood, California. 

He came away from all these incidents unscathed enough to record his next and most successful album, the eponymously titled 'Seal'.  

This album included hits like, 'Prayer For The dying', 'Don't Cry', 'Newborn Friend' and the inimitable 'Kiss From A Rose'. 

The song 'Kiss From A Rose' would prove to be the greatest selling single of his career; and the fact that it was featured on the movie soundtrack 'Batman Forever' helped promote the album. The song also won Seal three grammys in 1996. And quite frankly, Seal's song was ten times better than the Batman movie it was promoting.

The grammy awards Seal won were in the categories of 'Best Male Pop Vocal', 'Best Song Of The Year' and 'Best Record Of The Year'. 'Kiss From A Rose' remained at the number 1 position on the U.S. Billboard charts for 12 weeks. 

But even these accolades couldn't quell the disquietude that stirred in Seal's soul. 

All those years of abuses suffered at the hands of his father and his early years of abandonment came to a head in his next album 'Human Being'.  

Seal released this album in 1998 after dealing with problems with his record label and his producer Trevor Horn. The first single 'Human Beings' was inspired by the death of Tupac Shakur and Biggie Smalls, as well as Seal's thoughts on death, self-esteem and fame.

But what really inspired this LP was displayed on its cover...and that was Seal's consummate self-loathing. 

I suspect this is how Seal's father made him feel all those years he lived under his rule. Seal's pose almost makes him look like he's cringing while waiting for another one of his father's blows. 

It speaks to a body dysmorphia that probably had Seal feeling almost other-wordly and alien-like, even in the midst of fame. It also looks like he's suffering from an almost 'Kafka-esque' mind-state at the thought of his facial and physical features. 

And this internal strife would cause him to make poor choices in relationships. 

Enter Heidi Klum...  

Now, for those who don't know, Heidi Klum is a german-american model who's been half naked on the cover of Sports Illustrated's swimsuit issues; and she's credited for being a fashion designer, actress and television producer. 

Since germans are known for their loose morals, it figures that Heidi wouldn't be an exception. But let's delve deeper into how she and Seal first met. 

Seal and Heidi's first meeting was in 2003 at the 'GQ' awards in London; but weeks later, they stayed in the same hotel. And Heidi stated that she saw Seal in 'biker shorts' after he'd just come from a gym. 

She said she was immediately impressed with his 'package' and promptly introduced herself. Mind you, Heidi was pregnant with her ex's child at the time. 

This tells you everything you need to know about Heidi. 

Now, even though Heidi exposed herself as a super skank, what happened next is what really sealed their fate...no pun intended.  

As Seal told a journalist, about a month into their courtship, Heidi told him she was pregnant with her ex's child. 

Actually, Seal put it like this; after Heidi told him she was expecting a baby, Seal laughed and said, "Already? That's amazing."

This implied they had sex several times before. 

Heidi replied, "Not with you stupid."

Seal said there was an awkward silence after that; then he replied, "It doesn't change the way I feel about you, 'cause the fact that you're here tells me you think a lot about me."

This is the moment Seal went from being a singing superstar to an outright simp. And unbeknownst to him, it was gonna' be all downhill from there.

Now, a lot of people are under the impression that Heidi settled for Seal, when actually, it was Seal who settled. 

The moment this tramp told him she was pregnant, Seal should have replied with some sort of pleasantry and slowly phased this skank out of his life. Seal could've had any woman he wanted, instead, because of his feelings of self-loathing, he wound up being another simp tethered to another skank.

This was also when they got visited by what I call, the 'specter of doomed marriages'. 

You see, the reason simps and skanks get along so well is they're both from unstable and abusive households; and it's damn near impossible for them to get out of that frame of mind.

Unfortunately, neither one of them realize this and they're doomed to be in bad relationships for the rest of their lives. 

That is, unless they can diagnose the problem in their subconscious and work to recondition themselves out of it. 

And most people don't even recognize the problem at that level. 

So the question simps, skanks and everyone else has to ask themselves before entering a relationship is: do I know who I'm attracting and who I'm attracted to? 

And it's a fact that if you come from an unstable and abusive household, you're gonna' be attracting and attracted to, people from unstable and abusive households. 

AND THERE'S NO EXCEPTION TO THIS RULE. 

NONE.

Problem is, most people never get to the point of asking  themselves this question. 

So, in all of this, I hope Seal learned a lesson from his mistake. 

Unfortunately, he'll be tied to this tramp for the rest of his life. 

Heidi actually started an affair with her bodyguard before she and Seal officially split. 

But I think Seal is smart enough to have learned one maxim I overheard from a wise man. And that is...

When you lose, don't lose the lesson. 

And after a painful loss like this, I think Seal definitely learned his. 

At least I hope he has.

Ma'at Hotep,

MontUHURU Mimia