Saturday, December 7, 2013

Why Kerry Washington and Dave Moscow broke up and the plight of Black college grads...


Last week, I was perusing the aisles of my local supermarket when I came upon the racks of gossip rags by the check out counters.

That's when I happened across one of the periodicals about Kerry Washington's recent wedding.

This immediately drew me to the mag 'cause I know the white elitist plan for Kerry involved her eventually marrying a white guy. 

And I know what some black women are thinking while they read this...they're like, why can't Black men get over us marrying white guys?

For the record, again, I have NO problem with this, I'm simply saying that white elites have built up Kerry as the poster child for inter-ethnic relationships. Especially when it comes to black women dating and marrying white men. 

So, I turned to the page about her wedding...and to my surprise, Kerry married a Black man. 

And the brother's got a righteous African name too, Nnamdi Asomugha.

This brotha is a 36 year old NFL player from Louisiana who's currently a free agent.

After nodding my head in approval, I was like, wait a minute...this wasn't whitey's plan for Kerry, who was she dating before?

That's when I discovered her ex David Moscow. (And if you'd like to see a pic of Kerry and Dave in happier times, just click onto this post's header. Also, note how Kerry's eyes are completely doting on Dave.)

Now, I've learned two facts about Dave, one, is he was an actor who's biggest claim to fame was playing a young Tom Hanks in the movie 'Big', and two, Kerry and Dave met in high school. 

I also found out Dave and Kerry were engaged to be married for three years.

So I was like, what happened?

Why didn't they get married and live happily ever after? 

That's when I though about a college buddy of mine, who I'll call Craig. 

Craig was smitten with this blonde haired, icey blue-eyed undergrad he shared a class with. 

So after Craig put the moves on her, she agreed to go out with him twice. The third time she told Craig if they wanted to be in any kind of on-going relationship, he'd have to meet her a town over. 

What she was really saying is she couldn't let her friends or family see them together, cause she was ashamed of being seen with a Black man. 

Craig relented. And several months later, he found out his ice princess had a white guy on the side she was seeing. 

Craig finally got the gumption to let her go.

Rumor has it this woman is now married to this white guy she saw on the side, while Craig is still single and continuing to date white women. 

The last story also led me to think of a black collegiate woman I knew, who I'll call Brenda. 

And anyone who knew Brenda, knew she dated white guys exclusively.

And she'd met one white guy on an internet dating site who set up a time and place for them to meet. 

Brenda confessed to another female friend of mine, how she was smitten with this guy's looks right off the bat.

So, after a dinner and some drinks, they wound up back at a hotel. 

After they 'tripped the light fantastic', the white guy asked Brenda if she'd like anything to drink cause he was going into the lobby to get a beverage. 

After she said no, this guy went into the lobby, then went to the parking garage, got in his car and drove off. 

The next day, Brenda e-mailed this guy and asked him why he'd left.

The guy said, 'cause they had sex too soon. 

Last I heard, Brenda was single and still dating white guys exclusively. 

See a pattern here people?

Now, don't get me wrong, not ALL white people treat our kind this way. 

There are exceptions where Black and white men and women date, get engaged and get married, and do live happily ever after. 

I'm just saying, these instances are few and far between.

But let's get back to Kerry Washington...Kerry stated how dating 'scared' her. 

But here's my question, why would dating a white guy, or the prospect of being in a relationship...especially with a white guy, or any guy for that matter, 'scare' Kerry? 

That's 'cause Kerry got what I call a 'J.Lo' pulled on her.

You remember J.Lo and her liberal-minded, political activist white beau, Ben Affleck, don't ya'?

Jennifer Lopez literally referred to Ben as her 'knight in shining armor' and wrote songs about him with lyrics like, 'I love you, you're perfect'.

But when it came time for Ben to 'put a ring on it', he got cold feet and called it off. 

A coupla' years later...Ben married a white girl named Jennifer, and has been with her ever since. 

Now, my message to anyone who reads this, is please don't leave me comments saying all white men are not like this, I didn't say they ALL were.

I'm just relating to you how most are.

I also read about Kerry saying she wanted to keep her dating life private, this was the reason for her and Nnamdi's 'secret' wedding. 

But let me tell you why Kerry married this Black man 'secretly', it's because her white fascist handlers realized they'd failed.

See, Kerry and Dave Moscow's wedding was suppose to set a precedent for a deluge of inter-ethnic weddings of white guys and black women. 

There was only one problem, these same white elites have conditioned white guys into thinking of black women as sex objects, period.

Same with my friend Craig, the white elite has brainwashed whites across the board to think of us as 'sex toys'...and nothing more.

Cause you and I both know, if Kerry had married Dave Moscow, there'd have been a full page spread in every gossip mag and periodical across the country covering it.

It would have been the white wedding those white fascists hoped for. 

Again though, they did their job a little too well of having us relegated to 'friends or fiancees with benefits' in the eyes of whites. 

This got me thinking about the plight of Black collegiates and college grads. 

Cause so many of us spend those years pursuing white dates and mates, and there's no one to tell us how the majority of collegiate Black men and women will wind up oversexed and alone at 50 thinking our college degree means we're now 'good enough' or qualified to marry whitey. 

And whites know this, but ya' think they're gonna' say it to our faces?

Hell no. 

They're gonna' enjoy us spreading our legs or unzipping our flies to fulfill whatever fantasy or fetish they've got in mind.

And you know how whites are...the more depraved the sex act, the better. 

Which ultimately brings me back to the recurring theme of my Blog, and what's my Blog's theme?

That we...Black people, have lost everything to our self-hatred.

And it's time to recondition ourselves out of it...before it's too late. 

And when I say we've lost everything to our self-hatred, I want you to understand, how in no way, shape or form, are we born hating ourselves or each other. 

Like I've said several times, we go through a very intensive conditioning process that turns us into self-hating men and women. 

And this happens over the course of decades, especially in the american school system. So it's gonna' take time to erase all the psychic damage done to us. 

But each of us need to get started doing this work individually and collectively. 

'Cause the real, real question still stands, and that question is: How do we heal the rift between Black men and women?

It's through meditation and reconditioning the subconscious mind. 

I myself have employed methods of self-hypnosis and traditional meditation to take this challenge on. 

And it's transformed my life in ways you wouldn't believe. For the first time in my life being Black doesn't feel like a burden, but a blessing. 

But you can only see this after you've done the work to recondition the subconscious.

So let's all get to work.

'Cause like the old Black proverb goes, 'there ain't no justice...THERE'S JUST US'!  

And like Sam Jackson said in 'Do The Right Thing', "...that's the triple truth, Ruth."

Later,

MontUHURU Mimia

86 comments:

  1. I love this blog you are telling the truth. I am sorry that I have not been on your blog as much. My king passed away on Nov. 8, I miss him so much. And I'm greiving over his loss. But what you said is true. I'm a 70's baby, where I would see images of strong, positive black men. Black Panthers I looked up to. And I wish we had the Black Panthers around today. We were taught to love our black brothers. I personally only date black men. But I did when I was younger had, well I still do today. Have Indian men, Arab men, Hispanic men hit on me. I dated a puerto rican, but I didn't feel him. But there are handsome white men, but to me they are not my type. I love having a black man with hair on his chest, I feel that's sexy to me. I feel that it is sad that some black people think, having a white man or a white women would make you complete. I never date a black man that have been with a white women. Because some men will try to compare you to that white women. Instead of loving you as an individual. I feel it's sad. But like you said in your blog, not all white men are like that. There are some white men that love black women. And there are white women that love black men. And I personally do not hate them for that. But the majority white women I see lately, if they have a little bit of money. All of the sudden they look good to them. I feel the same with some black women. Well I'll talk on all day. But you have a good day.

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    1. Hi Patsy...

      I'm glad you're diggin' this post.

      Beyond this post's message, I think I've struck that right balance helping me be critical of the Black diaspora without being divisive.

      My Blog's post should be better from here on out. I HOPE.

      I'm sorry about your loss; I hope your friends and relatives are helping you heal, 'cause this is when you need them most.

      Life is tough, so stay strong.

      Again, thanks for commenting.

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  2. By the way this Patsy I don't know why they don't show my Bob Marley

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    1. I know it's you Patsy...I see you.

      Again, thanks for commenting.

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  3. Kem Wesir...and ThANKHS for commenting!

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  4. wow slavery really does affect generations and minds of people. i am willing to bet that you wouldn't go very far in life because you have put a label on your self,a label that can only limit you.
    how would anyone get above a certain limit if they thought everyone was out to get them or people that look like them.i really do feel sorry for you.
    what i read in this article was utter nonsense and could be said of the way men and women treat each other regardless of colour. i cant even type well as i am just shocked by what i read.
    you are a human being,that is your label,stop being a slave to your colour,the only person that can limit you is you...........i cant even continue bye. btw-i am not "white" or a supremacist trying to kill you or whatever you think they are trying to do to your "kind" ..

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    1. I feel sorriest for you, 'cause not only don't you have an idea of what this article is really saying, but you have no idea how dastardly your people really are.

      Sucks to be white, don't it?

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  5. "And you know how whites are...the more depraved the sex act, the better."

    What??? This is a bizarre generalization.

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    1. I have no desire to google any of those things, but interesting that you are already familiar with the results. And while I'm not going to do the search myself, something tells me if you google those terms + [insert continent], you will find evidence of those kind of practices in every culture.

      Regardless, my point was that generalizations are harmful. What you are promoting here is a view that the color of a person's skin is indicative of their inner being. Wait, I think I'm familiar with this concept....

      racism or racialism (ˈreɪsɪzəm, ˈreɪʃəˌlɪzəm)
      — n
      1. the belief that races have distinctive cultural characteristics determined by hereditary factors and that this endows some races with an intrinsic superiority over others
      2. abusive or aggressive behaviour towards members of another race on the basis of such a belief

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  6. Wow, this was the dumbest thing I've ever read. David and Kerry's breakup had nothing to do with race. I know David and he is no "white supremacist!" They broke up cuz of Kerry's actions, which I won't mention out of respect!

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    1. Well...since you 'know' Dave, why don't you tell me what really happened?

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    2. If they wanted it to be public info, they would have told the public. I wouldn't be just telling you, I'd be telling everyone that reads this and I can't do that. Plus, I'd be devastated if David saw it!

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    3. I think it's a pretty safe bet that Dave Moscow is NOT gonna' read this Blog.

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  7. Couldn't get through this .... a lot of babbling about nothing

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    1. If you didn't get this, I know two things about you:

      1. You're white...or you're an anglophile.

      2. If you subscribe to the tenets of white or anglolphilic people, then this message wasn't meant for you. Keep watching Wheel of Fortune and American Idol.

      So long and don't come back to my Blog!

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  8. I like this post a lot. Although I prefer White males, I am glad that Kerry Washington is with her African husband because he is the right man for her and treats her with respect.

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  9. If you don't know - ask the black man.... he'll judge both you And himself by the color of his skin. Good or bad, the content of his character was decided by the degree to which his blackness has been tainted. Am I right?

    This is bullshit. I'm white. Government holding the black man down is not a myth (but get in line, black men, to women of any color).

    There's no justification for judging someone on skin color. None. No person is correct - only self righteous.

    Well go on and be self-righteous, then. As long as your actions promote positivity when your words don't.....

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    1. I'll stop judging white people based on the color of their skin, when they stop judging my people based on the color of theirs.

      You can't deny that when it comes to 'prejudices'...no one outdoes a white man.

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  10. wow, you might be one of the biggest racist i have ever read. good job.

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    1. Wow!

      If you don't like what I wrote...DON'T COME BACK TO MY BLOG!

      See how simple that was?

      So long!

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    2. Sorry bro. He's free to reply to what he wants. You want to make your thoughts public and online, be ready for a backlash. I should get my black friends on here to tell you how racist this is. As a mattah 'eh fact, the only true one with an agenda is you. You are trying to brainwash other black folks to your propaganda.

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    3. 'dfx'...

      I have no problem with people commenting on my Blog, just be prepared for my answer bro.

      As for getting your Black friends to come to my Blog...you don't have any Black friends, so stop frontin' BRO.

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  11. I bet your going to tell me you do not like Ghettogaggers, where's your free loving spirit.

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    1. Harry...

      Refer to my reply to your other questions on 10/30/14 in regards to this one.

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  12. 'fiji'...

    I too agree that the majority of white men will marry white women, problem is, Black men and women are taught to hate themselves and their own kind so much by american white supremacists, that we don't want to face this fact.

    We'd rather stay in the illusion that we, especially Black people with a college degree, will be treated better by white people than any of our own kind; and how we usually wind up is oversexed and alone at fifty behind this thinking...and I'm talking about Black men AND women.

    Now, this is a direct result of Black people being taught a self-hatred that is ten times worse than any other ethnic group gets taught in this world. And I understand as an asian person, you may be very understated, but whites and asians, at least fair-skinned asians, don't have problems marrying one another because they're not force fed the message that they should hate themselves.

    Now, rarely do I see a white person marrying a dark-skinned asian person; of course, it happens, but I don't see much of this. Which goes to show how pervasive this 'color' line is pertaining to how whites view everyone else.

    Now, when I say white elites want Kerry Washington to marry a white guy, I'm referring to another agenda of white supremacists.

    See, white birth rates are falling below replacement levels, so in an attempt to keep 'pure-bred' Black people from possibly breeding them out of existence, they want to keep Black men and women apart at all costs...AND THEY WANT US TO KEEP HOPING GREATER NUMBERS OF WHITES WILL WANT TO MARRY US! That's the game that's being run on Black people. And that's why they wanted Kerry and her 'rainbeau' Dave Moscow to marry...to keep that hope alive.

    But this post is relaying how good a job white elites have done with making sure working class whites wouldn't ever consider one of us for a bride or groom. So that's why Kerry got what I call a 'J.LO' pulled on her.

    So again, of course whites are going to marry other whites in droves, but white elites want to be able to have their cake and eat it too, meaning, teaching their people NOT to marry Black men and women AND keeping Black men and women apart by having us thinking, with a college degree, the majority of us will, one day, marry a white person.

    And what the white elite are finding out now is...THEY CAN'T HAVE IT BOTH WAYS!

    And it serves them right! This world has never seen a force as wicked as pale-skinned whites...PERIOD!

    Thanks for commenting!

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  13. 'dfx'...

    Whatever ethnicity you belong to...you're a complete ANGLOPHILE! So I wouldn't expect you to like anything here anyway.

    And isn't it funny how white jews can get reparations for their holocaust, so can pale-skinned asians, but how dare Black people ask for reparations when we get taught every day of our lives how we were made to work in this country for nothing. Absurd!

    And again, as for your Black friends, the reason you keep bringing them up, is 'cause ya' got NONE! So tell the truth...do you hate Blacks, of course ya' do, but no one wants to be called a bigot or racist.

    I get it.

    And if you really don't like what ya' see here...don't come back to my Blog, BRO.

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  14. In case you didn't know, white people sold other white people into slavery as well.

    This was happening so much in eastern europe, that Yugoslavia was named for its white slaves. The word 'slave' itself comes from the 'Slavic' or 'Slav' population.

    And I understand why you wouldn't recall any of this, because all you really know about history, is what other white people taught you in their classes. It's when you do your own independent research, that you'll really start LEARNING something.

    So whether you call yourself a 'lusophile', anglophile, or whatever other kind of 'phile' you might be, one thing holds true, and that's how you still love fair-skinned white people more than yourself or anyone else.

    I swear, you anglophiles make this easy.

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  15. Interesting! I enjoyed your views on this. Personally, I get along well with black people. They are more down to earth than other whites. I go to college with another white guy that is married to a native American Indian woman. He says that people look down on them.
    My view on this. There are a lot of Sociopaths out there that think they are better than anyone. On that subject, there's a lot of personality disorders out there, period. Color doesn't matter. If we lived in a perfect world, it wouldn't matter. But we don't, unfortunately.
    Let's use music as an example. Some white guys like Rap and Hip-Hop. Some black people like rock and roll (although we originally got rock and blues from black people). Myself, I like Classic Rock with white and black musicians. B.B. King (R.I.P.), Chuck Berry, Tina Turner, Whitney Houston, Stevie Wonder, etc. The first song I ever liked was by Ray Charles.
    If you care what other people think, get over it. It's the 21st century. We have a black man as President. Mr. Obama doesn't sit up at night and worry what people think about him, I'm sure. He is a very intelligent man and that's why I voted for him twice. Not because of color.
    I hear what you all are saying. You're right, to some degree. We all have to learn to get along with each other. I don't think it will happen in my lifetime, I'm sorry to say.

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    1. White folks have no one to blame but themselves, for what will inevitably happen to them.

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  16. To the writer who quoted Michael Jackson, of all people and said being black or white doesn't matter, sorry to say but in th USA it does, because "they" made it so starting with slavery. If race wasn't important to Michael why did he only want %100 white kids and not black ones, I'll tell ya why , because it mattered to him, because he didn't seem to feel good about himself being a black man in this country. The next time you want to quote a black man, please select one "ALL" the way down.

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  17. White people never denounce their own, when they full well know they should have a long time ago for the cruelty they have inflicted on racial groups, instead they'll dance around and pretty the s*@t up and say we all need to get along and love each other and sing that S&*t, "He's My Brother" , back to discussing Kerry Washington, Looking at pictures of her with her white financee, "David", she looks at him, as if he were a god, but with her black husband he's trailing behind her , he's just standing next to her and she looks like she tolerating him or he's just not in the picture at all. I don't see the love.

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  18. Thanks for this insightful comment!

    And be on the look out for the second part of this post; there's another angle of this story I wanna' cover that deals directly with what you're talking about.

    So stay tuned!

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  19. Wow!! It's scary how many sheep like people will follow your ridiculous babble and continue to make you feel like you are somehow how making a difference in the black community ..... I'm a American , born and raised from 1981 to present and in my 34 years of life I appreciate all cultures and races and what they bring to the table and to me there's nothing more beautiful then diversity ..i wish more people thought like me and less like you...I love seeing interracial couples to interracial friendships ... because it showcases the people in the world who are open mined enough to accept and understand were all human !!! and have needs and if another race can fulfill those needs then screw it ... why should someone who doesnt know me from a hole in the wall be offended by my personal choice ... its people like you that keeps the divide alive in society ... your right up there with the KKK just playing for the other team .. thats all ... does racial profiling exist ? Absolutely .. are certain people in the black community targeted 100 % .yes ... is this the unfortunate truth that is still going on in 2015 ..yup .. but instead of installing negativity and empasis on whitey and convincing your followers of these foolish conspiracies that anyone who is non black is out to get them .. why don't you go out yourself and get your swirl on and shut the f up !

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  20. I enjoyed your article. I just happened to stumble across it. I just dated a black dude who hasn't slept with a black woman in 20 years. All his children are biracial. A couple of my friends also have dated black men who haven't been with a black woman in 15+ years. Majority of the black men in my family are not with black women, in fact most black men I know are not with black women, despite many of them having conscious mothers who instilled knowledge in them. It just goes to show how powerful the white supremacist system is. It's so DEEPLY ingrained in us. You are on some real deep stuff and most people are sleeping when it comes to race relations in amerikkka especially. But all of us are so fucked up by it and it is alive and well today. I'm happy you should your ground against all of these ignorant people man. It's tough speaking the TRUTH. You are not a racist at all, I mean you have some conspiracy theories but this world is WAY deeper than the powers that be let us see and sometimes the truth is in plain sight but most are asleep. You are on some malcom x krs one shit and those are people who truly invoked change in the mindset of the marginalized groups.It wasnt the clowns who thought everything was all good cuz it iwasnt and it still isn't. Shit is fucked up but thanks for raising awareness. It helps the few woke people realize they are not alone. I'm a black woman. I've dated white, black, Latino, but I gotta say so far, being with a black man is a kind of powerful experience that is somewhat sacred. I don't even understand it but that's another story. PEACE.

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    1. 'Warrior'...

      I find it odd that behind watching shows like 'Intervention', the average Black person can go up to any stripper, male or female, or any porn actor/actress, and tell them the reason they're doing what they're doing, is because they suffered a childhood trauma. But we can't seem to make this same connection when it comes to all the dysfunction we see in the Black community/Diaspora.

      And what I mean is, damn near every day of our lives we get taught to hate ourselves more than any other kind of person on the planet, especially in the american educational system. And in regards to american schooling, we get this message over the course of 17 or 18 years, depending on when each of us graduates.

      I remember listening to Dr. Ray Haggins, and even thought this man has all kinds of advanced degrees, he was still wondering why white fascists target us more than anyone else.

      So, what I want every Black man and woman coming to my Blog to realize is two things:

      One: we, Black people, have the most genetic power to breed our oppressors (white people) out of existence.

      Two: reason one, is why we get taught to hate ourselves more than anyone else on this planet.

      Think about it, no other ethnic group gets taught that they're ancestors were slaves, BUT US! And like I've said in previous posts, the very word 'slave' comes from the white 'SLAVS' or 'SLAVIC' people. And again, YugoSLAVIA was named for its abundance of white slaves.

      And I'm hoping if Black men and women can get these two messages, we can begin seeing each other with more loving eyes, which hopefully can start the process of healing the rift between us.

      'Cause truthfully, with all the messages we get to hate ourselves and each other, the biggest obstacle to overcome trying to date a Black man or woman, is finding one that's not conditioned to hate Black men and women.

      Thanks for sayin' I'm on some 'Malcolm X/KRS-ONE' ish! I consider these men two of my heros...or HERUs. 'HERU' is the ancient Black deity where we get the word 'hero' from.

      And definitely stay tuned for my next post, because it's gonna' talk about two initiatives to keep Black men and women apart.

      Question: you say you just 'stumbled across' my post...how'd you originally find me?

      thANKHS for you compliments and comment!

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    2. 'Warrior'...

      One last thing...you said: 'being with a black man is a kind of powerful experience that is somewhat sacred. I don't even understand it but that's another story.'

      In my next post, I'm gonna' explain why Black love is so revolutionary, spiritually and physically...and I'm also gonna' give you a 'shout out'. So stay tuned!

      Again, thanks for commenting!

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  21. Thank you for putting this together so well. You forgot to mention their deliberately violent side if you don't remotely comply.

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    1. 'Cloud'...

      Regardless of whether or not Dave or Kerry had 'violent' streaks, it doesn't change the fact that Dave ultimately thought his being a white man meant that Kerry was beneath him in social status because she's Black.

      And this is the message I'm trying to impart more than any other.

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  22. I got it and agree....as I observed some of the same things you did. I didn't think anyone else did.

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  23. Not quite. I'M not White. There are a slew of US that get excluded by some, way to often. The picture coloring is NOT the best, but close enough. I am African American and have not benefited from White culture. If anything, I am Constantine under attack by it. But thanks for responding. I don't want to make this about me.

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  24. constantly......not Constantine...

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  25. I didn't know a pic was on Google+. Will check it.

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  26. 1. Your friend Brenda. I don't know too many people who have found successful love on internet dating sites, but most people are smart enough to read between the lines on that one. They ended up in a hotel after a date. Why not her place? Why not his place? A hotel room after a date and use of a dating site suggests he was probably married. For giggles, I'll pretend he wasn't: it is possible to sleep with someone too soon. If you're looking for someone to have a relationship with, early sex is a turn off. Seriously though, I think he was hitched, and had a convenient excuse. Still, your two examples are hardly a trend. They're anecdotal at best. There are several marriages between white men and black women here in so cal, myself included. I'm talking house, kids, the whole family life. I've been married to my husband for 23 years. We have a 20 year old daughter and a 17 year old son. My daughter's boyfriend is Korean. They've been dating since 10th grade. My son's girlfriend is black. You like what you like, and you stop giving an S about what others think.

    2. I always believed Washington left Moscow because her acting career had been steady and was now starting to take off, and his was stalled, at best. He hasn't worked much at all, while she was getting parts in hit movies (Mr. and Mrs. Smith, Fantastic 4 movies) and critical acclaimed ones (Last King of Scotland, The Dead Girl.) Bottom line, she was earning a paycheck, and he wasn't. He was a white guy in Tinsel Town, his chances of getting work were much higher than hers. It screams he was sponging off of her, and she wasn't having it. There's a reason why she married an NFL star fresh off a Superbowl win. But now that he's officially retired, let's see if the marriage lasts.

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    1. 'tigerlilly'...

      You've really missed the whole point of this post...and let me explain why...

      First off, in regards to 'Brenda', whether the white man she slept with was married or not, the way he went about letting her think he was coming back to the hotel room when he wasn't, was extremely dastardly. Don't you think? And if this white guy was married, you'd think he'd have a bit more scruples than that.

      Second, if you look at the pictures of my Blog post's header, for parts 1 and 2 of this subject, you'll see how Kerry is always looking directly at Dave, while he's looking away from her. Meaning, he was already out of the relationship mentally, he just kept Kerry hanging on until he felt like leaving. And after he left, Kerry's had an air of sadness about her every since.

      Third, I find it funny how you mentioned 'Brenda', but you never talk about how 'Craig' was treated by a white woman.

      Understand, the reason I included the story about 'Craig' was to illustrate that thee incidents don't just happen to Black women, but Black men dealing with white women as well. Meaning, I wasn't trying to say that ONLY relationships between Black women and white men were doomed; these were cautionary tales to Black men AND women about dealing with white, or non-Black people. Period.

      Now, what YOU read into this was that I was just saying that Black women can't be in successful relationships with white men, thus, the reason I'm saying you've missed the point of this post's 'anecdotes'.

      Now, you say you've been married to the same white man for 23 years; that's wonderful, and more power to you; but if you look at the marriage stats for Black men AND women, rates of being single for both of us are above 60%.

      And beyond that, the tales of Brenda and Craig and other Black men and women I've seen personally, speaks to how the majority of us are being used like sex toys by white, and other non-Black people during the course of our lives.

      And what you also failed to talk about was the question I posed at the end of my post, which was: how do we heal the rift between Black men and women?

      Ultimately, I'm interested in OUR relationships being more successful.

      See, I'm a Black Nationalist who wants to see our people together; you on the other hand are an anglophile who's never wanted to be with a Black man anyway; and you could care less about what happens to the whole of our Diaspora.

      So go sell that little dumb-founded, 'I'm an acceptable, un-biased negress', non-sense to someone who's impressed with brain-washed Black folks like you.

      "...just for giggles..."

      Please! How old are you?

      Finally, please don't let your daughter be used like a sex toy by too many non-Black men. I'm not saying she shouldn't date non-Black men, I'm saying too many young Black women are winding up being handy-wipes for the sexual misadventures of white, asian, latino and american indian men.

      Just like too many Black men are used like sex toys by non-Black women.

      Oh, I forgot, you really don't care about Black men in the first place. That's why you say you want to see if Kerry's new marriage will last.

      Ultimately, I have to thank you for not marrying a Black man, 'cause being that you're so conditioned to hate us, all you would have done was make him miserable. And that would've left another Black man swearing off Black women for good.

      In conclusion, if you don't like the other posts you see here, you never have to come back.

      So long!

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  27. Look, you ABW

    1. Washington dumped Moscow. Not the other way around. Her words. That's been printed and re-printed over and over. And, yeah, I do think she realized if she married him, she'd be the sole breadwinner. And now that guy she did marry has retired from the NFL, she ended up being the sole breadwinner anyway.

    2. "First off, in regards to 'Brenda', whether the white man she slept with was married or not, the way he went about letting her think he was coming back to the hotel room when he wasn't, was extremely dastardly. Don't you think? And if this white guy was married, you'd think he'd have a bit more scruples than that. "

    I had to re-read that to make sure I didn't just see someone suppose that a married man having an affair would have any scruples at all. Worse, the irony in that statement is completely lost on you. Hell, you're so blinded by seeing everything in stark Black and White, all common sense is lost on you. It's a waste of time to talk to you because you see and hear what you want to see and hear, and nothing more. You choose not to be sensible or reasonable. You don't want to be. Good luck with that, Omarosa.

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    1. 'tigerlilly'...

      First off, I'm a Black MAN...not an Omarosa wannabe or an 'ABW'.

      Second, in regards to Kerry's break-up, what do you expect her to say? She's not gonna' tell the world Dave strung her along and then cut her loose. Beyond this, I've heard from several sources that Dave broke up with Kerry due to some underhanded act she committed. Now, if you haven't noticed how unhappy Kerry's been since her break up with Dave, then you're just not paying attention.

      Third, I had to re-read this statement you made: "...it is possible to sleep with someone too soon. If you're looking for someone to have a relationship with, early sex is a turn off. Seriously though, I think he was hitched, and had a convenient excuse." This to me, sounded like you were in fact letting this white guy slide for his egregious act.

      Fourth, again, I noticed you said nothing about 'Craig' and his travails with a white woman. And you also mentioned nothing about the question I posed, which is: how do we heal the rift between Black men and women?

      I guess that's 'cause once again, you proved you don't care about Black men. To you we don't exist. Now, when you say I see things in stark Black and white, you're right, I want Black men and women to have healthier relationships with each other, 'cause every day I see white fascism's attempts to keep us apart.

      I'm a Black Nationalist, FIRST AND FOREMOST!

      But I guess you could care less about the whole of our Diaspora.

      I hope your son doesn't suffer behind your conditioned hatred of Black men.

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  28. Myself personally, I used to date white guys but I have not in 20years and will never date another one. Yes you are right Kerry like most black women will say that we were the ones who initiate the brake up with the white guy, because we don't want to face the truth that not all but many white guys never cared for us in the beginning . I do think that many blacks need to limit their interaction with non-blacks and let us work on ourselves. We are very sick people.

    Forward thinking black female

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    1. To 'Forward thinking Black female (FTBF)' and 'Cloud Oliver'...

      The reason I included the anecdote about 'Craig', in conjunction with 'Brenda's', was to show that BOTH Black men and women are letting ourselves be used like sex toys for the pleasure of non-Black people...and WE need to stop!

      What I'm noticing, again, is that Black men and women are quick to point fingers at each other, accusing the opposite sex of being the ones who date outside of our Diaspora more often. This only comes from a need to feel morally superior to the opposite sex, when in reality, rates of being single for both Black men AND women, are over 60%.

      I'm doing my level best to ease the schism between Black men and women, so we can ALL understand that the reason a rift between us exists at all, is because white fascists have taught us to hate ourselves and each other more than any kind of person on the planet, cause we have the most genetic power to breed them out of existence.

      So any kind of happy union amongst Black men and women, spells genetic...and physical annihilation for white folks.

      At some point, we're gonna' have to start seeing the game that's being run on us, so the 'pure bred', or pure-bred looking Black person, doesn't go the way of the dinosaur. Or the american indian.

      And a couple of specific points I wanna' hit on here, are these...

      'FTBF'...you say we are very 'sick' people, but we MUST understand that we are NOT BORN THAT WAY!

      This 'sickness' comes from decades of being taught to hate ourselves more than anyone else by white fascists, cause again, we have the most power to breed them out of existence...and knowing this implicitly, determines whether a Black person will hate or love themselves until the day they die.

      'Cloud'...

      You're 'Google +' avatar looked more like a white woman than a 'light-skinned' Black one; that's why I thought you were white.

      Second, 'Omarosa' is the famously abrasive Black woman who appeared on Donald Trump's show, 'The Apprentice'. And the 'ABW' moniker stands for 'angry Black woman'. 'sdtigerlilly' didn't realize I was a Black MAN. What she also didn't realize, or expect, was for me to see right through her shallow attempts to mask her hatred for Black men. In neither one of her responses did she ever make a reference to how 'Craig' was treated by the white woman. She just wanted to harp on what I was saying about Dave and Kerry. And that wasn't the entire point of this post.

      And no worries, I might have thought you were white, but not gay.

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    2. Thanks. The avatar was an old FB account not of my creation. Have you covered the New Black/gay mess as what it is....the perpetuation of racism by sexual degredation (my view) or what is yours?

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    3. 'Cloud'...

      If you wanna' know my views on 'homosexuality', or what Black conscious leaders are calling 'promo-sexuality', then check this out: http://cinematicsymbolism.blogspot.com/2015/06/the-cult-of-gay-white-bigotry-part.html

      Thanks for commenting.

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  29. Sorry it took you so long to come to your realization. I grew up in a small Town that is greatly famous for NOT integrating schools. As a teen, I watched how the authorities, Police and Council members, covered up the deaths of Black males found drowned in a closed, locked and chained college pool,because they dated a precious whyt girl. I vowed then, I would not date them. Two of my brothers married whyt girls and went through HELL. Now, w so many men of color dating them, more and more whyt men approach me....telling me the same social situation and that they have no one to date. Really!! Is this current social plight NOT what white supremacists wanted....the Black family eliminated!! I still will not date them, I have nothing in common w them AND soo many black men whom have become THEIR boot licking, arse kissing negroes. I despise Whyt supremacy and it's deeply rooted violent, thieving nature. I guess someone forgot to tell them it's illegal, but the justice system is as lawless as the criminal one. I am halfway through my life, and it is the SAME racial bull I observed as a teenager. Perhaps some people can go through life w blinders.....eventually, someone Black or Whyt will yank them off. Peace.

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  30. Sorry MontUHURU, it's your site, but this light skinned, freckled faced sister has been real and hip since birth. Lol

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  31. And I'm NOT gay (the weird and creepy NEW Black...what a joke) Nor angry!!

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  32. Well I am no longer a sex toy for any non-black person. I do not think that we will ever be breeded out , because our genetics are so strong. I also have white and indian genetics and I am very black in skin color. In addition I am wary of non-blacks and really don't think about them unless I am specifically interacting with them if that. I understand that we were not born sick, but I am tired of being sick. My thing once again is being friendly with them when needed, but not being their friend. Knowing exactly what my relationship is with them and that's that nothing else.
    My life is now for healing myself not helping them. This attitude of mind is for self preservation.

    Forward thinking black female

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    1. 'FTBF'...

      'I understand that we were not born sick, but I am tired of being sick.'

      I'm definitely FEELIN' you on this point!

      The reason I can talk at length about the workings of the sub-conscious mind is that's where I've had to go to resolve some of my own issues. Especially as it pertains to white fascism and personal relationships.

      Now, I'm almost positive that the Black Diaspora will NEVER be bred out of existence as well, because we do have the world's most 'dominant' genetics. The reference I made to 'pure-bred' looking Black people, was one where I was making the point of seeing less and less darker-skinned Black people with 'traditionally' African facial features in america. It seems like anytime one of us gets a college degree or a six-figure salary, we immediately start dating or marrying someone who doesn't look like us. And this is definitely diluting our Diaspora's gene pool(s).

      And in regards to interacting with whitey, there's an old African proverb that says: If there's no enemy within, the enemy outside can do us no harm.

      Now, some of us can't help but be surrounded by white folks, especially at work; but if you're a strong-minded and completely self-possessed Black person, there's very little whitey can do to you/us. And you sound like this type of Black person.

      We also have to remember that the reason whitey acts like a pale-skinned degenerate, is he/she has to worry most about 'self-preservation', being that they're the world's minority AND The world's MOST recessive-traited persons.

      So with the threat(s) of genetic annihilation always looming over them, they almost can't help but act like the great damn devils that they've proven themselves to be.

      Now, one question I forgot to ask you earlier 'FTBF', is how did you find me? I'm always interested in hearing about how people got wind of my Blog.

      Hope to hear from you soon, and again, thanks for commenting!

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  33. @ MontUHURU
    I understand your mission and purpose for your blog. Again, I say you are leaving out an entire population of people of color whom are Black people. We MAY not have the darker skin of Africans, but we certainly carry the struggle of being Black,in another place that does not want us. Professionally, I worked w many African groups and diplomats (Continent-based interest groups). It amazed me how every African Diplomat deliberately insulted EVERY person of color because of their color variation, the darker skinned Black person too, and told US how much WE WERE NOT African. And we ARE NOT because of their pivotal role in HOW we got to this country as a people. The members of these interest-based organizations (healthcare--HIV to be precise) were the complete opposite. They were PEOPLE; equally wounded by a government's sick decision to capitalize upon them in some sick way, emotionally and physically. The African people claimed All of US as brothern and sisters, but Not the well appointed dignitary nor diplomat!! WE ALL know how we came to this country: Africa's role and the US 's role. However, Africa, as a politicized entity, still does NOT accept responsibilty in HOW WE got here!! I am not responsible for the sickness of Capitalization, from either place. I am very much aware of people as an entire WHOLE; NOT the sum of it's shattered parts. Perhaps Africa should assist w restitution to a people it sold off, as less them animals, because this Country definitely won't. You are leaving out a group of people because of a sickness WE are not responsible for initiating. I will claim the African-American government's title when Africa pays into it. Otherwise, I know the "GAME" all too well and know how it will leave you. Play it w/o knowing the dangers and you will end up a much sicker person than when you began. I AM not that person nor will I accept any person of that nature, especially in MY personal life. Now, I have angered everyone. Peace brother

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  34. And I truly hope Kerry is happy and well w whomever she selects to share her space.

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  35. Also, 2 of the young males drowned, I knew them. One had just played softball w me and corrected my swing. I guess impressions from my formative years are engraved in my memory, as well as my heart.

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  36. I am a 60's child, really halfway through life if my goal is 100 yrs old at death. Please don't take my posts as attacks, because they are not. I like your blog and your views--they are honest, factual and real.It's comforting. But where I come from......when folks start talking about a pure blood line, if it's not about 4-legged animal, it's time to go home, lock the windows and doors and load your shot gun!!! No joke. The Panthers did that and helped push the Civil Rights movement ahead. Our struggle as Black people is infinite, challenging, but very rich. We can't be as they are. The arians, Klan talk about pure lineage, when theirs is as muddied as a back country dirt road, not to mention deceitful.

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  37. And WE are a better people. Peace

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    1. 'Cloud'...

      Let me take this time to clear up some misconceptions you might have about me...

      Firstly, when I said your 'Google +' avatar looked like a 'white' woman instead of a light-skinned Black woman, I was in no way implying that I have a problem with you, or 'light-skinned' Black people. I happen to be a 'lighter-skinned' Black man myself.

      Now, you may have also gathered this opinion from one of my responses to 'FTBF's' comments, where I make a reference to 'pure-bred' looking Black people, but again, this in no way was meant to say I think 'lighter-skinned' Black folks don't belong to our Diaspora.

      I'm fully aware of how the 'willie lynch letter' employs the use of the good ole 'divide and conquer' tactic in dealing with our Diaspora; and that's something I definitely don't imbibe in or abide by. I'll leave that for lesser-thinking Black folks.

      Also, you make reference to two young men 'drowning', and say one played softball with you and helped your with your 'golf swing'...this you'll have to expound on, 'cause I don't follow what these statements mean.

      But for the record, I don't have a problem with you, or any Black person being 'lighter-skinned'. Now, if you were indeed a white woman looking at my Blog, then, we might have a problem.

      Thanks for commenting!

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    2. My 10 year old niece is the culprit for the off color avatar. She didn't know how to add color to it. Ocassionally, she plays games on my site. It was FB. I fixed it. Also, apologies in regard to multiple postings . I don't know why that occured. I didn't post multiple times because I was upset or attempting to emphasize a post or point.

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  38. Thanks for clarifying. They young man helped me bat better as a left-handed batter, not golf. Sorry. Didn't golf until my 20's.

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  39. I found you by a search on Scandal. She is a graduate of GWU where I completed a professional study program. I read your blog on her and looked and read more of your topics, obviously liking them. I don't know if you travel for research on your blogs . If so I would like to invite you to my hometown, where I live now. We have lots of Civil Rights programs because of schools not integrating and closing. Maybe I can get you to speak at one if you do public engagements. If interested send me your email address to olivercloud09@gmail.com. Ohh...and I am look w the Panthers.

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  40. Hello there I came across your blog when I was googling Neecys Nest and I was doing a bit of internet surfing. I would like to see more of your self hypnosis and meditation ideas as I myself has restarted practicing yoga. Yoga is trendy nowadays I was practicing it many years ago when it was not trendy. The whites have made it trendy, but that is okay because it will go out of style soon ,like everything else they market like Pilates, Aerobics, Zumba etc. I will l still practice yoga because I practiced it before it became popular. Once again I look forward to your meditations and the healing for our people.


    Forward thinking Black Female

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  41. @MontUHURU,
    I am serious about a speaking engagement. This is not one of your many marriage proposals, lol.

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  42. And whyt supremacists had NOTHING to do w my career. I worked for minority Black member organizations.

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  43. @Anonymous
    I apologize. I did not intend for my post to be a back handed applause. We ALL have our wounds that require healing and you are certainly on the correct path. Peace be w you

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  44. Is it possible to fini up by email, pls.?

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  45. Think it was that Moscow dumped Washington and had nothing to do with race. lol He recently admitted that he had little experience with relationships and she did all the heavy lifting.
    Also, with all the rumors with Washington I don't believe she's actually married or even with that man. Still strange she hasn't been seen anywhere with her child nor has her suppose husband.

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    1. Look out for my next post where I detail why Dave himself might not have realized the reasons he was engaged to Kerry for years without marrying her.

      And isn't it funny how when he did finally decide to marry (September 2015), he wed himself to a white woman.

      Just sayin'...

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  46. I'm a white woman. I found your blog researching a paper I'm writing about Hollywood's lack of diversity in it's depiction of "beautiful" women.

    In my opinion Kerry Washington is a prime example of this.

    If you go back to her earlier years, you'll see photos of a beautiful sexy black woman. Look at more recent photos of Kerry and you'll see a woman slowly turning into Hollywood's fake ideal of beauty. Her skin looks lighter, her nose is getting narrower, etc.

    I'll be the first to admit the Hollywood ideal is white. (But with that said, the ideal is virtually unattainable for any woman without major cosmetic surgery, regardless of skin color.)

    Anyway, I'd be interested to hear your thoughts on the subject.

    Have to add I'm sorry you "might have a problem" with me because I'm a white woman. I'm willing to listen to you without judgment and hope you're willing to listen to me.

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    1. 'Marissa'...

      If you look once again at Kerry's recent pics, you'll see how she's not only been morphed into the 'anglophile's ideal', but how she's got a deep air of sadness about her ever since she and Dave split.

      Now, when you say that the blond-haired, blue-eyed ideal is virtually unattainable for ANY woman, you have to understand that there are LEVELS of attainability, or access to this ideal, that this social order tells Black women specifically, that they are completely shut out of. More so than any other kind of woman.

      Meaning, our women are told that 'white' is beautiful, and 'Black-ness' is a curse, especially when it comes to physical beauty.

      Mind you, African features are COMPLETELY ANTITHETICAL to what society tells us is the european standard of what is attractive.

      And this is because fascist institutions have been tasked with making us hate ourselves more than any other kind of person on the planet, because we have the most genetic power to breed whites out of existence.

      And this is REALLY where all that madness stems from.

      Now, I CAN make a distinction between white FASCISTS and white PEOPLE. So I know that not every white person owns and operates a white fascist institution that's hell-bent on making my people hate themselves.

      So it is WHITE FASCISM that I'm railing against on this Blog, not every white person.

      Now, I hope this clarifies my position on this subject, and on the mission statement of this Blog.

      And if you have any other concerns, feel free to correspond again.

      Thanks for commenting!

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  47. not to mention for many decades Black men have been marrying outside the race at a much greater rate than Black women.
    time for us to do like y'all

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    1. 'Deonne'...

      You're getting swept up into your emotions that's why you're not realizing what this post is really saying.

      You're thinking I'm just saying that inter-ethnic marriages/relationships between Black women and white man can't work. But this is a cautionary tale for both Black women AND men. That's why I included the stories of my friend 'Craig' and told the tale of what happened to the singer 'Seal'.

      I'm saying that the overwhelming majority of white and non-Black people only see us as good enough to have sex with, and we should be mindful of this fact when we seek out relationships with them.

      So try reading this post over again minus the emotionalism and I think you'll see what I'm talking about.

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  48. I just hate that they (Kerry and her new husband) had to be a SECRET. it's sad really....

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  49. What is particularly interesting about you diatribe is not your "up from" College Afro-American studies rhetoric, without so much a trace of irony; nor your hyperventilating, grape soda-fueled solipsism; nor even your risible declaration of a monolithic "White Elite" as if no other similar ethnic "elite" exists. No, it is your assertion that Ben Affleck jilted Jennifer Lopez to marry a "white girl named Jennifer." Ms. Lopez is of European descent and, therefore, as "white" as is Jennifer Garner, despite Ms. Lopez's efforts to shoe-horn herself into a "jenny from the block," minority-victimized chanteuse.

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      First off, I'm very aware that other 'types' of elitism, ethnic and otherwise, exist. But the elitists I'm talking about, are the 1% of people who own 90% of the earth's resources. So, in that regard, I'm talking about the 'white' elite. Now, this lets me know right off the bat that you're either white, an anglophile, or both. Cause what you're attempting to do is let white fascists off the hook with some sort of semantic fake-out. But you're gonna' have to come way better when you're dealing with me.

      Second, J. Lo is Puerto Rican/Latino, like her parents. She's not Spanish. But let's say hypothetically, that Ms. Lopez is indeed European, even with darker skin and a Latin surname. Here's my question: If J. Lo is European, then why would Ben Affleck, another European, cancel his wedding to her and seek out a 'fair-skinned' woman, who's also named Jennifer, to marry? Why wouldn't Ben stick with the European J.Lo/Jennifer he had? Answer: It's cause Ben felt too biologically superior to the darker-skinned Jennifer, cause he, himself, is a fair-skinned man. Now, being that you're an anglophile, I understand this reflects badly on you, cause you don't wanna' think that Ben is bigoted. Well, tough. He is. And he proved it in grand fashion.

      Third, white people are the world's REAL minority, cause there's less of them, than any other kind of person on the planet.

      Fourth, when you speak of my 'hyperventilating, grape-soda fueled solipsism', I'm thinking, it's a shame you couldn't of phrased that a bit more accurately. Next time, try saying I've got a 'sophomoric selfishness' or something. My point being, this is what happens when you anglophiles try to sound edified. You wind up spouting out poorly contextualized SAT words, which expose the fact that you can't make a distinction between being smart and educated.

      Light work.

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  50. I love everything you wrote, sir. As a black woman who use to date outside her race I can honestly say you make great points.

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  51. So glad for your blogs, you are right on point. Love how you answer back with confidence and facts. Keep on and soon everyone will snap out of the fog, and face the truth. Just like you said, Not all, but most with this mindset.

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  52. White male, married to a Black womanx40 years...with 3 thirty somethin beige "kids". Dated Black, brown , n white before marriage, but always seemed to be attracted 'darker women'. Anyway, thought a lot of your posts were overly harsh, characterizing all Whites as the same. Imo, that is as untrue as saying all Blacks are the same...

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    1. "DJS SR"...

      The fact of your needing to state how you've "always seemed to be attracted to 'darker women'", reinforces "3" more facts:

      1. You feel superior to the 'darker women' you seem to be attracted to.

      2. Your "attraction" was actually a fetish you picked up from friends and family 'cause all of you probably equated being with a Black woman as some "sexual misadventure" you needed to experience as some kinda' white "rite of passage".

      3. So, for the above reasons, you're just like every other whiteboi who obsesses over having an assortment of trysts with Black women--this is why I say you are ALL THE SAME.

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