Why social networks ain't 'social'...

The term 'social network' was coined by professor J.A. Barnes in 1954. 

He defines this as a social structure made of nodes that are generally individuals or organizations. He also stated that a social network represents relationships and flows between people, groups, organizations, animals, computers or other information/knowledge processing entities. 

Now, today, when we hear the term 'social network', we instantly think of websites directly associated with our interactions with friends; like Twitter, Facebook, Instagram, LinkedIn, etc.

At least, that's what I used to think. 

What changed my mind, was an incident where I was sitting in an airport lounge, facing directly across from one of the terminal's bars. 

Two women who looked to be in their later twenties or early thirties, were conversing over cocktails, until one of them said they had a message on their Facebook page. So this woman clutched her phone closer and began gazing into it. After about five minutes, her friend took out her 'ipad', saying she wanted to 'Tweet' something.

After I finished looking over my magazine, it was thirty minutes later, and my eyes went back to these women. 

Both were facing away from each other, while still staring into their devices.

Now, beyond this example, I can't tell you how many people I've actually had to say, "watch out" to, because they were either texting, or looking at a text, or they were on some social network, while they were walking directly into me. I've seen people nearly walk into walls trying to text 'hello' to a friend. 

But this isn't a coincidence...and let me explain why...

These social networks were designed by elites to actually pull or draw people away from others, and into a virtual realm where the only person that really exists, is them. 

See, if the public at large can be kept on social networks and in a feigned sense of connectedness, they can be lead into what I call a 'hyper-narcissism', where they're not concerned about the welfare of others. And they can be conditioned into literally hundreds of pseudo-relationships that don't require any real intimacy. 

Basically, these social networks were created to make us 'individualists'. 'Cause when you're constantly obsessing over yourself, you don't have to care about anyone else's plight. So, old African proverbs like, 'It takes a village to raise a child', go right out the window. 

And exactly how do they have us embracing 'individualism' via these networks? Notice now, how the average person, especially young persons, 'talk' to their friends less and 'text' them more. Now understand, the sound of your friend's voice evokes emotions and releases certain types of stress relieving chemicals in the brain. Moreover, there's a bonding effect that happens upon hearing a person's voice; and this doesn't take place when you're just looking at a text on a screen. 

The elites understand how important this is to a child's development, that's why they continually give our young people mechanized sounding music to listen to.  

I remember when the first 'synthesizers' started being produced...now what's this instrument's real job? Not only to act like a classical piano keyboard, but to produce 'synthetic' music; 'mechanized' sounding music to get the populus into more of a 'mechanical' mind-state, so it would be easier to turn us into automatons, or robots. The more we learn to 'compartmentalize' our emotions, the easier it is for the elites to maintain control. 

And all of this is especially detrimental to the Black Diaspora. Here's why...

Beyond the nearly two decades of conditioning we get in pre, middle and high school(s) to hate ourselves, we're also exposed to the media's mediums like TV and movies, which are rife with these messages directed at us. And let me add again, even though I've said this ad nauseum; the conditioning we get to hate ourselves is TEN TIMES WORSE than any other ethnic group gets. We literally are made to hate ourselves more than any other kind of person on the planet. 

And this conditioning HAS WORKED!!

It's worked and is working too damn well! 

I was thinking the other day, I can't remember a time in my life, when Black men and women didn't have a deep rift between them. And actually, this rift has gotten deeper! So much so, that what I'm hearing continually from Black men is 'we're done' with Black women, and Black women in turn are saying they're done with Black men in droves. 

Now, with this being a reality for our Diaspora, the last thing we need is some 'social network', which is really an 'anti-social network', to aid in deepening the schism between us. 

If you're a Black man reading this, understand, if you can be kept obsessing exclusively on Black men's issues, you can be kept hating Black women; and ditto for a Black woman who's kept obsessing exclusively on Black women's issues...you can be kept hating Black men. That's the game white supremacists are running on us, and their campaign has been wholly successful. Once more, if we're kept in a 'hyper-individualism', we'll never think about the whole of the Black Diaspora.

Now, when I first started this Blog, my intention was to offer a meditative solution to the problem of self-hatred(s) that plagued us. But what I'm finding is, not only is our Diaspora not receptive to doing this kind of work at the subconscious level, but the majority of us don't even wanna' acknowledge how white supremacists have conditioned us to hate ourselves. 

I'm thinking okay, people aren't open to the idea of meditating, but if we don't at least see how we've been made to hate ourselves more than any other ethnic group walking this earth, then we have NO CHANCE AT GETTING RID OF OUR SELF-HATRED.

The majority of us are so comfortable in our self-hatred, that we think this mind-set will benefit us more than learning to love ourselves and each other. We still think our closer proximity to whites will guarantee a better life, even if it means they're coming into our neighborhoods, buying up its properties and kicking us out. 

So let us, the Black Diaspora remember...THE VIRTUAL WORLD IS NOT REAL!!

YOU DON'T HAVE FIVE HUNDRED FRIENDS LIKE IT SAYS ON FACEBOOK! More than likely, you really have about five or ten REAL ONES!

Individualism is what whitey has taught us to embrace, and it's the very thing that's killing us and our communities. And it usually manifests in Black women saying, "I don't need no man", or a Black man saying, "The only thing a Black woman can do for me, is show me where a white woman is".

So, let's come up out of this individualistic mind-state, so we can at least acknowledge what's been done to us by white fascists. And let's at least make an attempt to get back to loving ourselves and each other again.

'Cause our UNITY is the ONLY thing that will save us, not our money...and certainly not some damn social network account(s)!

And let's also remember, saving the Black 'nuclear' family...IS ALWAYS WHAT'S UP!!

Sutekh!

MontUHURU Mimia

P.S. 

If you need another reason to get your personal information off these 'anti-social networks', and off Facebook especially, here's a bit more of an incentive. This vid will tell you where all that info. you're feeding Facebook really goes. Just a 'head's up', this vid officially ends at 4:04.

P.P.S.

For those who forgot, here's the now infamous vid of that silly spaniard, Cathy Cruz Marrero, falling into a fountain while texting and walking. What's even funnier is, she WORKED AT THIS MALL when this happened! So you'd think she'd be a bit more familiar with its layout...lol! Yet another example of how these 'anti-social networks' pull you out of reality, instead of enhancing anything in it. 

Why Kerry Washington and Dave Moscow broke up and the plight of Black college grads...

Last week, I was perusing the aisles of my local supermarket when I came upon the racks of gossip rags by the check out counters.

That's when I happened across one of the periodicals about Kerry Washington's recent wedding.

This immediately drew me to the mag 'cause I know the white elitist plan for Kerry involved her eventually marrying a white guy. 

And I know what some black women are thinking while they read this...they're like, why can't Black men get over us marrying white guys?

For the record, again, I have NO problem with this, I'm simply saying that white elites have built up Kerry as the poster child for inter-ethnic relationships. Especially when it comes to black women dating and marrying white men. 

So, I turned to the page about her wedding...and to my surprise, Kerry married a Black man. 

And the brother's got a righteous African name too, Nnamdi Asomugha.

This brotha is a 36 year old NFL player from Louisiana who's currently a free agent.

After nodding my head in approval, I was like, wait a minute...this wasn't whitey's plan for Kerry, who was she dating before?

That's when I discovered her ex David Moscow. (And if you'd like to see a pic of Kerry and Dave in happier times, just click onto this post's header. Also, note how Kerry's eyes are completely doting on Dave.)

Now, I've learned two facts about Dave, one, is he was an actor who's biggest claim to fame was playing a young Tom Hanks in the movie 'Big', and two, Kerry and Dave met in high school. 

I also found out Dave and Kerry were engaged to be married for three years.

So I was like, what happened?

Why didn't they get married and live happily ever after? 

That's when I though about a college buddy of mine, who I'll call Craig. 

Craig was smitten with this blonde haired, icey blue-eyed undergrad he shared a class with. 

So after Craig put the moves on her, she agreed to go out with him twice. The third time she told Craig if they wanted to be in any kind of on-going relationship, he'd have to meet her a town over. 

What she was really saying is she couldn't let her friends or family see them together, cause she was ashamed of being seen with a Black man. 

Craig relented. And several months later, he found out his ice princess had a white guy on the side she was seeing. 

Craig finally got the gumption to let her go.

Rumor has it this woman is now married to this white guy she saw on the side, while Craig is still single and continuing to date white women. 

The last story also led me to think of a black collegiate woman I knew, who I'll call Brenda. 

And anyone who knew Brenda, knew she dated white guys exclusively.

And she'd met one white guy on an internet dating site who set up a time and place for them to meet. 

Brenda confessed to another female friend of mine, how she was smitten with this guy's looks right off the bat.

So, after a dinner and some drinks, they wound up back at a hotel. 

After they 'tripped the light fantastic', the white guy asked Brenda if she'd like anything to drink cause he was going into the lobby to get a beverage. 

After she said no, this guy went into the lobby, then went to the parking garage, got in his car and drove off. 

The next day, Brenda e-mailed this guy and asked him why he'd left.

The guy said, 'cause they had sex too soon. 

Last I heard, Brenda was single and still dating white guys exclusively. 

See a pattern here people?

Now, don't get me wrong, not ALL white people treat our kind this way. 

There are exceptions where Black and white men and women date, get engaged and get married, and do live happily ever after. 

I'm just saying, these instances are few and far between.

But let's get back to Kerry Washington...Kerry stated how dating 'scared' her. 

But here's my question, why would dating a white guy, or the prospect of being in a relationship...especially with a white guy, or any guy for that matter, 'scare' Kerry? 

That's 'cause Kerry got what I call a 'J.Lo' pulled on her.

You remember J.Lo and her liberal-minded, political activist white beau, Ben Affleck, don't ya'?

Jennifer Lopez literally referred to Ben as her 'knight in shining armor' and wrote songs about him with lyrics like, 'I love you, you're perfect'.

But when it came time for Ben to 'put a ring on it', he got cold feet and called it off. 

A coupla' years later...Ben married a white girl named Jennifer, and has been with her ever since. 

Now, my message to anyone who reads this, is please don't leave me comments saying all white men are not like this, I didn't say they ALL were.

I'm just relating to you how most are.

I also read about Kerry saying she wanted to keep her dating life private, this was the reason for her and Nnamdi's 'secret' wedding. 

But let me tell you why Kerry married this Black man 'secretly', it's because her white fascist handlers realized they'd failed.

See, Kerry and Dave Moscow's wedding was suppose to set a precedent for a deluge of inter-ethnic weddings of white guys and black women. 

There was only one problem, these same white elites have conditioned white guys into thinking of black women as sex objects, period.

Same with my friend Craig, the white elite has brainwashed whites across the board to think of us as 'sex toys'...and nothing more.

Cause you and I both know, if Kerry had married Dave Moscow, there'd have been a full page spread in every gossip mag and periodical across the country covering it.

It would have been the white wedding those white fascists hoped for. 

Again though, they did their job a little too well of having us relegated to 'friends or fiancees with benefits' in the eyes of whites. 

This got me thinking about the plight of Black collegiates and college grads. 

Cause so many of us spend those years pursuing white dates and mates, and there's no one to tell us how the majority of collegiate Black men and women will wind up oversexed and alone at 50 thinking our college degree means we're now 'good enough' or qualified to marry whitey. 

And whites know this, but ya' think they're gonna' say it to our faces?

Hell no. 

They're gonna' enjoy us spreading our legs or unzipping our flies to fulfill whatever fantasy or fetish they've got in mind.

And you know how whites are...the more depraved the sex act, the better. 

Which ultimately brings me back to the recurring theme of my Blog, and what's my Blog's theme?

That we...Black people, have lost everything to our self-hatred.

And it's time to recondition ourselves out of it...before it's too late. 

And when I say we've lost everything to our self-hatred, I want you to understand, how in no way, shape or form, are we born hating ourselves or each other. 

Like I've said several times, we go through a very intensive conditioning process that turns us into self-hating men and women. 

And this happens over the course of decades, especially in the american school system. So it's gonna' take time to erase all the psychic damage done to us. 

But each of us need to get started doing this work individually and collectively. 

'Cause the real, real question still stands, and that question is: How do we heal the rift between Black men and women?

It's through meditation and reconditioning the subconscious mind. 

I myself have employed methods of self-hypnosis and traditional meditation to take this challenge on. 

And it's transformed my life in ways you wouldn't believe. For the first time in my life being Black doesn't feel like a burden, but a blessing. 

But you can only see this after you've done the work to recondition the subconscious.

So let's all get to work.

'Cause like the old Black proverb goes, 'there ain't no justice...THERE'S JUST US'!  

And like Sam Jackson said in 'Do The Right Thing', "...that's the triple truth, Ruth."

Later,

MontUHURU Mimia