Halle Berry and the spectre of failed marriages...

Maria Halle Berry was born on August 14^th, 1966 in Cleveland, Ohio and her name was legally changed to Halle Berry at age five. Her white mother Judith Ann was a psychiatric nurse, and her father Jerome Jesse Berry was an African-american attendant working at the same hospital.

Halle's parents divorced when she was four years old, and from that point on, she and her sister Heidi were raised by their mother. Halle recounted the tumultuous years of her parent's marriage in the press, saying she continually witnessed her father being abusive to her mother. Also, Halle was quoted as saying in published reports that she'd been estranged from her father since her parents divorced. “I haven't heard from him,” Halle was quoted as saying, “...maybe he's not alive.”

In high school Halle was a cheerleader, honor student, editor of her school newspaper and prom queen. While studying in Cayahoga Community College, she entered several beauty contests. She had previously won the 'Miss Teen' beauty pageant in 1985 and she'd also won the 'Miss Ohio' pageant in 1986. She was also the first Black woman to enter the 'Miss World' beauty pageant in 1986 (maybe this matters to someone, so I thought I'd include this tid-bit of info.), and there she came in sixth place. 

Halle went to New York to pursue an acting career in 1989 and quickly ran out of money after she arrived. Behind this, she briefly slept in a homeless shelter. During this time, she did land a role in the short-lived TV series 'Living Dolls' which was shot in NYC. During the taping of Living Dolls, Halle lapsed into a coma and was diagnosed with type 2 diabetes. After she recovered, she continued working on the TV series before she moved to Los Angeles where she went on to have a recurring role in the television series, 'Knots Landing'.

Now, we all know how the rest of Halle's story goes in terms of her film career...her movie debut was in Spike Lee's 'Jungle Fever' in 1991, after that she was in the movie 'Strictly business'; she went on to play roles in other flicks like 'Catwoman', 'Swordfish', 'Monster's Ball', etc. But what I want to talk about here is Halle's relationship fiascoes.

Now recently, it was reported that Halle and Oliver Martinez had filed for a divorce. As a result, their lawyers are now hashing out how their assets will be divided. Mind you, this is Halle's third failed marriage and she has two kids by different fathers. With that said, here's two things I'm speculating about Halle's marriage to Oliver...

One: Being that Oliver Martinez is a fair-skinned latino, Halle probably thought their marriage had a better chance of going the distance than her marriages to Dave Justice and Eric Benet. She probably also thought this about her relationship with her 'rainbeau' Gabriel Aubry.

Two: Halle probably did everything she could to make her marriage to Oliver work, and she probably put everything she had into finalizing some kind of wedding plans between her and Gabriel.

Now, with that being said, I'm sure Halle did everything she could to save every one of her relationships hoping they'd result in life-long marriages. That is, she did everything except the one thing that would have truly saved them. And that certain thing is resolving the childhood traumas that are wrecking, and will continue to ruin her relationships with men.

And I'd also like to note two other points about Halle and her relationships...those being: one, even though I'm a Black Nationalist who prefers to see Black women with Black men, I really do feel more empathy than glee behind Halle's marriage troubles. And two, this type of thing doesn't just happen to Black female celebrities, just ask the singer Seal, he'll tell you all about the lowly nature of white women.

But in regards to Halle's marriage misadventures, I think she feels/felt that her beauty (at least by european standards) and celebrity, would shield her from these types of relationship problems. But no one can avoid the all important question that I keep bringing up on this Blog in reference to relationships, and that question is: Do you know who you're attracting and who you're attracted to?

I hope at some point Halle understands that all the childhood traumas she suffered are directly rooted to her marriage problems. Cause until Halle does the subconscious work to heal and resolve what she saw her mother go through, and the absence of her father, she'll never be in the stable relationship or marriage she's so desperately seeking.

And I hope Halle also understands the legacy of bad relationships that resulted in her father and mother divorcing. I'm willing to bet money that Halle's father and mother came from unstable and abusive households, so there's no way they could have created a stable one for her.

And the bottom line to all these relationship mishaps is this universal rule: if you come from an unstable and abusive household, you're gonna' attract and be attracted to people from unstable and abusive households.

AND THAT'S EVERYBODY! REGARDLESS OF GENDER OR ETHNICITY!

And even if Halle seeks out some form of traditional therapy, she's more than likely not gonna' have this problem resolved; because therapists rarely do any work at subconscious levels and they're usually more interested in putting people on prescription drugs than anything else.

But regardless of the method, I hope Halle is soon able to reconcile and recognize what's going on in her subconscious mind, so she can indeed find Mr. right one day and live happily ever after. 

Later...

MontUHURU Mimia

The gospel of white fascism (Part 1)...Polygamy, 'open' relationships and the reason Brother Polight has five wives...

"...sitting here contemplating if we should even be, see I'm in love with a man who loves me, for me he'd do anything easily, oh his heart knows no boundaries...but he needs sometimes, to write with a different pen, on different paper."

--Excerpt from the song, 'The Lighthouse' by Jill Scott

Recently, I watched an interview with the singer Jill Scott that was broadcast on New York's 'Power 105' radio station. She was on their early morning talk show called the 'Breakfast Club'.

Now, I've had a crush on Jill for the better part of a decade and a half, so I settled in to listen to what she had to say. And in this interview, she waxed philosophic on her recent tour and her past relationships. And I'm always curious to know whether she's gotten married or is currently in a relationship. Turns out, she's in neither situation.

And it was towards the end of the interview, that she recited the words from her song, 'The Lighthouse', that I've written at the beginning of this post.

Now, these words and this song are basically endorsing the tenets of 'open' relationships. But I can't say Jill is the only one endorsing this, cause I think the majority of us know how Will and Jada-Pinkett Smith and Monique co-sign on this particular lifestyle too. A moment later, I reminded myself that all these people are white fascist freemasons and they're just carrying out the agenda of their white handlers. Mind you, they need to do this to maintain their celebrity status and stay in the good graces of those fraternities.

But even after reciting these lyrics, Jill seemed genuinely hurt and perplexed by the fact that she couldn't figure out why she's been single for so long. I myself always thought Jill, with her New Bohemian/Earth Mother vibe and air of exquisite femininity, would have easily fell into a decades long marriage by now. Then I had to remind myself again, of the main principle in the 'Willie Lynch letter' (if you don't know what this is, google it); and that is how white fascists must keep the Black woman away from the Black man.

So behind the Willie Lynch letter, Black men and women have been fed study diets of self-hatred in the american social order. And as a result of being taught to hate ourselves and each other, the rates of being single for both Black men and women are above 60%.

Now, even though Jill seems deeply affected by being single, I hope she understands, for her sake, how her participation in the white fascist agenda behind writing and reciting those lyrics, is directly related to her difficulties maintaining a stable relationship.

So one fact should be emphatically clear when Black men and women listen to celebrity interviews like this, and that is: the american social order has been engineered to destroy the relationship between Black men and women, with the end-goal of killing off the Black 'nuclear' family entirely.

Now, as an antidote to this, some Black 'conscious' activists have suggested that the we look into 'polygamy' as a viable alternative to traditional 'western-cultured' marriages.

And within the ranks of Sa Neter's 'House of Konsciousness' (HOK), the person chosen to exemplify this more than any other, is Brother Polight.

Now, Brother Polight has taken over the top spot as the leader of the religious order of 'Nuwaupians', and has succeeded the likes of their former cult leader, Dr. York. And Brother Polight currently has five wives. Now, I wanna' make one thing emphatically clear, this is a choice these adults fully consented to, and if Brother Polight can afford to have five wives who agree to that arrangement, then hopefully, they can overcome any travails that come with that lifestyle.

But beyond this, Brother Polight and others in the HOK say it only makes sense for us to adopt this lifestyle when the numbers of Black women are so much larger than those of available Black men.

Now, that does make a lot of practical sense...but let me tell you the real reason Brother Polight is practicing and endorsing polygamy...

Firstly, let me start off by saying that Brother Polight is a white fascist freemason himself. Now don't take my word for this, do your own research and you'll find out how you can't be a leader in the HOK, unless you are one. In addition to that, anyone studying the sordid history of Dr. York will find out he's a 33^rd degree freemason. Now, if you're wondering why Dr. York is currently in prison if he's a 33^rd degree mason, understand that there's a 33 and a third degree of freemasonry that's designated exclusively for white masons. Thus, they are the ones who are beyond reproach. So as a Black mason, if you fall out of the good graces of these white fascist fraternities, you have to know that you'll always be expendable to these organizations.

And to further speak on the plight of Dr. York, he was sentenced to 135 years in prison on child molestation charges and violations of the Racketeer Influenced and Corrupt Organizations Act. And I'm pretty sure everyone reading this is familiar with the Nation of Islam's Elijah Muhammad and his several affairs with women besides his wife. These trysts actually created several children. And this resulted in an air of scandal in and outside of the Nation of Islam.

Now understand, in the case of Brother Polight, the white fascist fraternities who control the HOK picked him because of his high I.Q. And I'll say myself, that Brother Polight is a genius. You can see this when he expounds on the minutiae of exotic financial instruments and the workings of the human anatomy. The speed at which he's able to elucidate and break down these concepts speaks to his exceptional mental capabilities, and this shows how he's the real deal...mentally.

But the reason(s) these white fraternities have him conforming to the polygamous lifestyle, is so Brother Polight can produce children with his same levels of mental capability. And being that the women he's doing this with are his wives, he'll have less worries about any kind of legal repercussions that befell Dr. York or Elijah Muhammad. 

We also need to understand that white fascists know their Black front-persons are gonna' grow old and die. So they're always concerned about having successors to people like Al Sharpton (Dr. Umar Johnson) and Dr. York (Brother Polight). And what these white fraternities will do is pick from the mental litter of Brother Polight's children, so they can groom the best minds among them to carry out their agenda for the future.

On top of this, white fascists know that the overwhelming majority of Black women, especially ones raised in a western culture, aren't gonna' agree to an open relationship or a polygamous one. Even if they verbally agree to it, in their hearts, they'll feel slighted by having to share a man with another woman, or other women. Thus, the majority of these arrangements amongst Black people in the western world will ultimately fail.

So essentially, these arrangements are just another method of keeping the Black man and women in failing relationships...just like Jill Scott. 

Now, let me make one more thing emphatically clear, if a Black woman is born and raised in a culture that endorses polygamy, she'll have more of a chance at being successful in these kinds of arrangements. So all these relationships are not doomed to fail. But once again, any Black women born into a paradigm of traditional western-cultured relationships, is not likely to thrive in this kind of environment.

So if you're a Black man or woman reading this, think twice before you take the leap into one of these kinds of arrangements. Especially if you site Brother Polight as an example of this being able to work. Understand why open and polygamous relationships are being mainstreamed, especially towards our community, so you can make a more informed choice as to whether or not you wanna' be in one. 

Trust me, your future happiness and the Black Diaspora's fate will depend on it.

Ma'at Hotep.

MontUHURU Mimia

P.S.

I'm renaming the 'gospel of white supremacy' Blog post series, the 'gospel of white fascism'. This is because I'm realizing if Black men and women keep repeating mentally or verbally, the term 'white supremacy', it's gonna' embed itself into our subconscious without us realizing it. And the last thing we need is more negative subliminal messages. We've gotten enough of those in the american (mis)educational system. 

The cult of gay white bigotry (Part 3)...Bruce Jenner, transcending gender and the real agenda of mainstreamed homosexuality...

William Bruce Jenner, now 'Caitlyn', was born on October 28^th, 1949, in Mount Kisco, New York. His parents, Esther McGuire and William Hugh Jenner, also had two girls, Lisa and Pam.

In Bruce's high school years, he earned a football scholarship and afterwards he attended Graceland University in Lamoni, Iowa. Due to a knee injury, he was forced to end his football career, thus, he tried out for his school's 'decathlon' program. Jenner's track coach was the first to recognize his potential in the sport, and encouraged him to pursue the event professionally. Jenner graduated from Graceland College in 1973 with a degree in physical education.

Bruce would go on to win the gold medal as a 'decathlete' in the 1976 summer Olympics, in Montreal, Canada, where he set a world record for the event, not broken until 1980.  Jenner became an 'american hero' by winning an event dominated by Soviet Union athletes during the Cold War. Endorsement and appearance opportunities flowed in and Jenner's "likeness became a nationwide brand" in advertising, movies and TV shows. This is also what landed him on the cover of the 'Wheaties' cereal box, displayed in the first part of this post's triptyched header.

Now, anyone who's looked at my Blog for a hot minute knows I'm not one to follow trends; matter-of-factly, I tend to avoid them like the plague. I rarely partake in celebrity gossip, mind you, I said rarely, not never; and I do pride myself on being an iconoclast.

But when I saw the Vanity Fair cover, featuring Bruce as the trans-gendered 'Caitlyn', (third pic on my header), I felt obligated to say something.

Now, it seems white fascists have gone 'trans-gender' crazy as of late; and Bruce, or Caitlyn, is suppose to be the new poster-person for this age of gender confusion.

But if you're a Black man or woman reading this, what you should really know, and what whitey refuses to tell us is, a 2012 Census revealed that the whole of white people are at a zero population growth.

This means that more white people are dying than are being born. *smiles*

Now, if you're wondering what's this gotta' do with Bruce, or Caitlyn, let me tell ya'...

See, whitey created AIDS to specifically get rid of Black folks, but white fascists have decided it's not working fast enough. They cooked up Ebola in a lab years ago, specifically for us, and it's killing a lot of us off but again, not fast enough. Abortions are killing Black babies, but again, not fast enough.

So the head inbreds are using the mainstreaming of homosexuality as a 'cure-all' to get rid of the 'Black menace'. If these people can coax our young Black men and women to adopt this lifestyle and never reproduce, it'll be mission accomplished.

Enter Bruce, I mean, Caitlyn Jenner...

And the reason they're using Bruce to push this lifestyle is, he was the epitome of white masculine virility for a generation. He was the square-jawed, muscular, aryan ideal. So by his adoption of the white fascist, 'trans-gender' hoax, whitey's hoping that more 'straight' men will lay down their masculinity and follow him...or her.

Now, you may be saying, well, white fascists have to know that Black people won't be the only ones effected by the mainstreaming of this lifestyle...and I do know that, but our situation is different from anyone else's. Here's why...

As I've said in previous posts, Black men and women have the most genetic power to breed whites out of existence. So to white fascists, a Black person existing anywhere is a threat to them everywhere. That's why this homosexual campaigning has a bulls-eye specifically on our backs.

Don't believe me? Then check out these pics of Jaden

Smith, (Will and Jada's son), and Magic Johnson's son Earvin to the right. Check out Jaden's muscular legs beneath his dress...and Earvin is just a queer goner. Now, this is designed especially to recruit young Black men into this non-sense, and with the way white fascists have completely destroyed the Black 'nuclear' family it's pretty much destined to work. I remember a Black man who's a friend of mine, telling me his daughter went on a school field trip; and that same evening, she called him asking if he could come get her out of there. Turns out, the overwhelming majority of her female classmates who were rooming together, started making out with one another. So much so, that she wanted no parts of the school 'outing' (pun intended).  

Now, again, there's gonna' be some white folk who say, there's a million cases of this happening amongst them, so what's the big deal. What they're not considering is this, the overwhelming majority of the world, doesn't look like them. The majority of the world is Black and brown, not white. White people are the world's real minority; but they have Black people calling ourselves this so we can feel inferior to them.

So if white fascists are promoting this 'deathstyle' globally, more of us will be affected, not them. 

Ultimately, what I'm trying to say here is the most revolutionary thing a Black man and woman can do, is form a loving relationship with one another. 'Cause every part of the american white fascist social order is diametrically opposed to this. Now, I now that probably sounds incredibly glib and corny, but it's a stark-raving truth!

And Bruce's gender 'transition', is just one more example of how far whitey will go to prevent this. 

And for anyone in the 'lgbt' movement, or anyone who supports this behavior; you should know that no matter what you do, you CAN NOT TRANSCEND YOUR GENDER!

Bruce, I mean Caitlyn, may think she, or he's a woman, but he'll never have the functioning ovaries that can produce children. Conversely a woman who becomes a man, can never produce the sperm needed to conceive kids either. 

Whitey's queer agenda, should prompt us to realize how important it is that our diaspora work on ridding ourselves of the self-hated they bred into us A.S.A.P!

Because this is only the tip of the iceberg as far as how many other campaigns they'll conjure up to get rid of Black folks goes. 

And people who think my rants about the riddance of our self-hatred are overstated, should check out how white cops have declared an 'open season' on young Black men. 

Our (the Black Diaspora's) level of education, our cult leaders, nor our money will save us...ONLY OUR UNITY WILL!

And we can't unite if we're conditioned to hate ourselves and one another. 

So let's be about the work of saying good riddance to our collective self-hatred.

Our survival depends on it!

Kem Wesir! (Meaning Black power in the Medu Netcher)

MontUHURU Mimia

P.S.

If you'd like to see the first two posts of this series, you 
can check them out here: Part 1 Part 2

3 ways Jill Scott, and Black women, can attract a 'marriage-minded' Black man (Part 2)...Why blame whitey for Black dysfunction?

Originally, I was planning a different topic for this week's post...that was until a comment from a Black woman named 'Saquorya', was made on my last one.

And usually I make my responses in the comment section of this Blog; but this woman's comments were so timely, that I had to respond right away. And I didn't think the limited space in my Blog's comment section, would do my answer, or this debate, justice.

So what I’m gonna’ do here, is present the opening lines of her comment, to get this debate going, 'cause there's a lot to cover. 'Saquorya' wrote: 'My ex husband and I had a discussion. Now, in all this eradication of harmful psychological torment that was heaped on us, we missed something else, what then are women/men supposed to do in relationships, what are their roles and responsibilities? I mean let's be frank we were raised by parents who are also products of the same harmful system so we cannot eradicate everything. So we then have re-learn what our roles are because if they aren't to hate each other than what are they? Most men grow up ill-equipped to take on fatherly/husband roles whereas girls are more equipped to handle momoherhood.'

Now, I want to focus on Saquorya's statement saying: So we then have (to) re-learn what our (men and women's) roles are, because if they aren't to hate each other, then what are they?

And if she's reading this, I'd like to say firstly, and emphatically, that Black men and women, don't need to 're-learn' our roles; what we need to do is re-condition ourselves out of the self-hatred that white fascists have force-fed into us, in the disguise of an 'american education'. 'Cause once we do this, the cohesion between the Black man and woman will return, and the stable Black 'nuclear' families created by this, will teach us our right roles again. That is, if we choose to do the work to reclaim our 'right minds'.

Here's another part of her comment: 'It (the white fascist system) cripples black men from really seeing they have issued they need to face to run deeper than do you hate black women. Black men are insecure and seem to lack headship skills a d knowledge to stand comfortably and confidently in his role. Where can u learn that? If not from God?'

More of her comment: 'I watched my ex (leave) from my brand new truck I bought myself, my Anne Klein dress with matching shoes and my handbag and hair that is natural in them middle of my back and we'll kept for: (for) an overweight woman who had tats, piercings everywhere she was unkempt and smelled of weed. She had four screaming kids in the back seat of her truck whose back window was gone and had a trash bag as a substition for a window.' 

And she continues to speak on how her ex-husband was completely dysfunctional: 'I dress well I am complement and stared at often and told how modestly beautiful I am. That is what,awesome people the ability to attract with modesty. Yes it is possible. My husband called thus bourgeois I liked to dine in nice restuarants.i was bourgeois. I enjoy travel and different cultures. That made me bourgeois. I also cooked different t foods and have an insatiable appetite for learning and achieving things. I was bourgeois for that too. My husband saw fit to abuse me because he felt his woman was the only thing he had the right to control.'

Now, I think the best way for me to answer, or address these questions/comments, are with the last few questions I posed to Black women on my last post.

So, in regards to this, my first question to 'Saquorya', will be: Do you know who you're attracting and who you're attracted to?

And Saquorya, if you're reading this, what I mean is, there's no way you could meet, date, fall in love with and ultimately marry a Black man that was this dysfunctional, without coming from some kind of dysfunctional household, or background yourself. There's no way you should’ve been married to someone who was nothing like you.

Cause a 'universal truth' is: we ultimately attract people who have traits that we ourselves, possess.

Now, I am sorry to hear that you were abused in this relationship, 'cause no one deserves that; but, if you're upper-scale, articulate, world-traveled and morally upstanding, you're not going to attract, or be attracted to, an under-educated, oversexed and abusive Black man. Meaning, a past trauma of yours, is what led you to date and marry this person.

Now, this leads me to some other questions I posed on my last post: Do you have a good relationship with your father? Was he in your life the majority of the time?

And if you've answered no to these questions, then you can't tell me, you weren't thinking the worst about Black men before you met your ex-husband. And this manifested in the relationship you had with him. And if you're saying, well, if I had a more responsible father in my life, I wouldn't hold these beliefs about Black men; I want to remind you how I detailed in my last post, how white fascists, especially through the educational system, not only conditioned us to hate ourselves, but everyone who looks like us. So I can't see how you can just dismiss this as not having any effect on the current dysfunction we see in Black men, or Black people on the whole. Especially in terms of Black male and female relationships.

Now, let me remind you again, how you view every Black man without exception, you wrote: 'Black men are insecure and seem to lack headship skills a d knowledge to stand comfortably and confidently in his role. The headship arrangement is where black men are crippled. He doesn't know anything about his role and how to exercise that role. Men typically are uninvolved with sticking to principles that would provide his family with a better standards or living and a set of morals to live by to make his family productive, but black men are flagrantly absent in this part of a relationship.'

Now, going into a relationship with this attitude towards all Black men, is it any wonder why you had a bad relationship with your ex-husband? And I know for a fact, the household you came from must have fostered the opinions you have of Black men before you met your ex-husband. A woman doesn’t draw these kinds of conclusions on the whole of Black men, after one relationship.

Here's another exerpt of what you wrote: 'To be frank I am sick of hearing what the white system has done. Why? Because when a person repeats victimologies he stays a victim and is powerless to change. I am sick of black men leaning on this same ideologies, not that it' isn't true, but it seems like this explanation of what whites did is more like a crutch now.'

And my response to this is, if you yourself say it's true that this white supremacist system is completely dedicated to our people's destruction, then how can you just dismiss this as a 'crutch' for Black men? The reason you have so much of a problem with all Black men, is because of the dysfunction conditioned into them by this same white system. Remember, everything Black men and women are taught, damn near since they start walking, has conditioned, and is continually conditioning us to hate everything about ourselves and each other.

And again, knowing all of this, why are you so willing to forgive the white fascists who created it?

And when you say people tell you you're good looking, and you wear matching Anne Klein dresses and shoes, and you have a new truck...understand, these things don't impress a 'marriage-minded' Black man. 'Cause this financially and emotionally secure man DOESN'T NEED ANY MATERIAL THING FROM YOU! He's already got these material things...that's why he's marriage-minded. 

What he's looking for in a woman, is someone who's peaceful and non-judgmental; someone who'll give him the benefit of the doubt in case something does go wrong, and someone who believes he can fix a problem if one arises. And here's another question I have to ask you: judging by what you've written, are you really capable of doing that for any marriage-minded Black man?

See, the head inbreds I call white fascists, want us to obsess over material things; so when you say you're natural hair is 'down your back', this smacks of something an anglophile, not a marriage-minded Black man, would be impressed by. Again, it's whitey who wants us stuck on superficial nonsense like this; a marriage-minded Black man isn't obsessing over a woman's physical features, he wants to know what you have to offer him 'emotionally', more than anything.

And here's yet another question, and the most important one I posed to Black women on my last post: ARE YOU A BLACK WOMAN WHO'S CONDITIONED TO HATE BLACK MEN?

Are you Saquorya? Do you know if you are?

And I need you to be COMPLETELY HONEST ABOUT THIS!

'Cause everything you've written, points to the fact that you’re completely conditioned to hate us.

Now, am I saying all of the dysfunction of the Black Diaspora, is all the fault of Black women? OF COURSE NOT! BUT IT'S ALSO NOT ALL THE FAULT OF BLACK MEN EITHER!

The point I'm trying to make, again, is BOTH BLACK MEN AND WOMEN, HAVE BEEN CONDITIONED TO HATE OURSELVES AND EACH OTHER...and you can't say the white fascists who did this, aren't directly responsible for our dysfunctional relationships.

Moreover, if you were to find the perfect Black man tomorrow, ultimately, your relationship with him still wouldn't work; 'cause consciously, or subconsciously, you're conditioned to hate him.

And understand, the other element of this white supremacist brainwashing, includes us ultimately forgiving white fascists for how they've decimated our minds and communities. That's why there's a church on every corner of a Black neighborhood. They want us to adopt the idea that our dysfunction has nothing to do with them. Thus, the Black Diaspora should continue to deepen the hatred for ourselves; 'cause the only conclusion one can draw behind this, is that Black people are born this way.

Now, here's the last question I have for you: ARE YOU WILLING TO CHANGE YOUR OPINION OF BLACK MEN?

'Cause if you believe there are NO good Black men out there, this will be your reality for the rest of your life.

Again, are you willing to see if you're conditioned to hate Black men, FOR REAL? And if not, you need to be completely honest about that too; so you can plan your life accordingly.

So Saquorya, I hope I've given you the answers to at least one or two of your questions; or I'm hoping I've given you some food for thought. 'Cause ultimately the message of my last post, and ultimately this Blog is, that Black people have lost everything to the self-hatred that's been bred into us by this white fascist social order.

And the riddance of this, is ultimately the only thing that'll save us.

And this is the real responsibility the Black man and woman has to themselves, and each other.

Hotep.

MontUHURU Mimia

P.S.

If you'd like to read 'Saquorya's' full comment, you can do that on my previous post.

Melissa Ortiz and (Uncle) Tommy Sotomayor ask 'why are Black women so argumentative?'...Here's the answer...(Remix)

"Man, God didn't give us nothin'...he gave us big lips and nappy hair..."
-- quote from a young Black women to me about her views on Black people's looks.

About a year ago, I came across a YouTube video of a woman named Melissa Ortiz titled, 'Why are Black women so argumentative'. Now, I'll readily admit, this vid pissed me off to no end, not only because I've seen Ms. Ortiz's antics involving the dissing of Black women in the past, but I know that Ms. Ortiz is a spanish woman pretending to be Black, so she can have an easier time dissing Black women.

Now, if you've been following this Blog at all for a couple of months, I guess you know by now that I'm not a fan of (Uncle) Tommy Sotomayor's; but he posed this question a lot himself, and since he's what I call a 'white supremacist simp' he's used his self-hating diatribes to rationalize why Black women are predisposed to being bitter. So, I'd like to answer this question in hopes that it gives some insight into the disposition of the Black women society calls 'argumentative'.

First off, I'd like to state that Tommy, Melissa and the general public's notion that all Black women are argumentative and abrasive is A LIE!

If you do happen across one Black woman with an attitude, this post will expound on the reasons she might have for being that way, but ultimately, casting aspersion on the whole of Black women, is another technique used by (Uncle) Tommy and Melissa to slander the image of every Black woman. 

Now, let's deal with the quote below my pictured header; this was a statement made to me by a young Black woman when I was in high school. So, for anyone wanting an insight into why Black women might be argumentative, take a hard look at this quote. 

This young woman said, "GOD didn't give us (Black people) anything..." So what is that implying? It's saying that everything about Black people is wrong; it speaks to her being made to feel that our very existence on this earth is a mistake. That her very God has cast us out of his/her favor. Now, do you think she was born with this opinion? 

Hell no!

This opinion was bred into her by the people Melissa Ortiz and Tommy Sotomayor love most, white fascists.

Now, can you imagine the pain this young woman was suffering and carrying around thinking this about herself? 

Now, that's just for starters.

To everyone reading this, and especially Black men, think about the plight of the Black woman for a sec'. Now, you understand beauty, or physical attractiveness, means something different to a woman than it does a man. It is the measuring stick the overwhelming majority of all women determine their self-worth by; and this shouldn't be the case, but that's the way it is. So tell me, how would you feel about yourself, if all you saw on TV is the image of a blond haired, fair-skinned woman being portrayed as the standard of beauty, when your looks are completely the opposite of what you're seeing on the screen. Mind you, at the time, this was back in the mid-80's, there was nothing countering this sentiment. The Black power movement had flat-lined and the order of the day was, if you didn't have a hawk nose, pin-thin lips and damn near white skin, you weren't attractive, and no one was gonna' find you attractive.

And even though I was a young Black man, I understood how this sista felt, 'cause I had been made to feel the same way. 

There was no one to tell that young sista that the Black woman was once the standard of beauty for women world-wide. Hell, Hollywood even made Cleopatra white (Elizabeth Taylor).

On top of this, think about what 'mainstream society' is saying to today's Black women in terms of dating and marriage. Whitey's stats tell Black women, she's the least likely to get married and the least likely to get responses on a dating website; and according to asian scientists (in this case an outright quack) like Satoshi Kanazawa, she's told her facial features are the least attractive amongst all ethnic groups of women.

Fortunately, there's a bit more of a Black consciousness to counter-act this kinda' non-sense now-a-days, but sub-consciously, the damage to our sistas has already been done by white supremacists and their institutions.

Now, consider that the majority of Black women grew up in fatherless homes. Mind you, this relationship is one of the most, if not the most important to a young woman in terms of her future relationships, 'cause this more than anything determines how good or bad her dating life with other men will be for pretty much the rest of her life. Meaning, once the father-daughter bond is broken, the ramifications of that can lead a young women into being oversexed and in abusive relationships as the norm. And, if the young woman's mother is conditioned to hate Black men as well, the young woman is in jeopardy of never being able to discern between a decent Black man who's courting her for the right reasons or one who means to do her harm. She could have the perfect Black man in front of her, but she'll never see him because to her, they're ALL out to abuse her. 

And as a result of growing up without a father, more than likely, she and her mother will have to fend for themselves financially; and if she one day becomes a single mother herself, she'll have to play mother and father to a child. Not to mention, the travails she'll endure having to get and keep a job...or two. 

A woman's greatest want is security, or at least some semblance of financial stability; and unfortunately not nearly enough Black women get this from Black men. In some ways, she feels like she's been thrown to the wolves without any kind of protection or protector. And she sees that the majority of the time when Black men do make some money, they share it with some plain-looking white woman instead of them. 

And understand, white men love seeing our women in this state, because it insures that the Black Diaspora will stay in continual disarray, and it makes Black women ripe for their exploitation, either in the work place, sexually or both. 

Now, let's rewind back and see why so many of our children are born into fatherless homes.

Why is it that in the early 1900's the Black nuclear family was more intact than it is now? 

Under segregation, we had no choice but to work together and more or less 'fend for ourselves. Behind this, we had areas like the 'Black Wall Street' where Black men not only created a thriving financial infrastructure, but the Black woman could depend on us for food, clothing and shelter. So much so, that white supremacists bombed the Black Wall Street on June 1st, 1921. Now for the white supremacist simps out there, should we just forget about this? Should we not blame the pale-skinned degenerates who destroyed the financial infrastructure we created when we were doing the right thing for ourselves?

Anyway, what happened next was the white fascists got hip to the fact that we would build back our businesses if this country was kept segregated, so integration became the first tool whitey used to get us away from one another, because unity is the truest power, not money. 

After whitey effectively integrated us into 'mainstream society' and told us we could now go to his schools, he created a curriculum for us that would effectively make us hate ourselves and each other. This was the second and by far most effective tool used to get Black women and men away from one another.

Now, once Black women and men were conditioned to hate each other and we turned away from our financial infrastructure to integrate with these degenerate devils, Black women could no longer depend on Black men for food, clothing and shelter because we weren't working for ourselves, we were now working for whitey. Enter the public assistance system where Black women could now depend on white institutions for these needs. And what was the main condition for Black women to get this sort of financial help...you have to get rid of the Black man. This was the third tool used to get Black men and women away from one another. 

My point is this, it's not a coincidence that the Black Diaspora is in this dysfunctional state, this was thoroughly planned out by white fascists so we would never be as powerful as we were during the times of the Black Wall Street.

And I'm not saying just sit back and blame whitey and everything will get better, again, I'm saying, let's see what's been done to us, so we can correct the problem and solve it.

So after all this, the last kind of man a Black woman wants to be with is a Black one. Now, once this Black woman has a college degree and some proximity to other ethnic groups of men, she says, I can't depend on Black men for anything, so let me try 'something new' and date outside of my diaspora. How this woman usually winds up after decades of being with white, spanish and asian men is oversexed and alone at fifty after spending decades being a sex toy for them...just like Black men with this same philosophy wind up after their pursuits of relationships outside of our community. We think we're really doing something by dating outside our diaspora, but ultimately the joke's on us, 'cause we both wind up being sex toys for every other ethnic group.

Now, for all the reasons stated, as a Black woman, this is gonna make you kinda' frustrated, kinda' angry and kinda' argumentative. 

Now, if you're a Black man reading this, am I saying you should try to be in a relationship with a bitter Black woman? NO!

Am I saying that you should try to marry this type of Black woman? NO!

Am I saying this woman is hard to get along with. YES!

But consider this, and I'm talking to the Black men who fancy themselves Black Nationalists...myself included; what I'm saying is when you encounter a sista who you think is bitter and argumentative, for all the reasons I've just listed, you must see HER STRUGGLE FIRST, BEFORE YOU SEE HER ATTITUDE!

REMEMBER, SHE WASN'T BORN THAT WAY, SHE WAS BRED INTO BEING THAT BY THE AMERICAN SOCIAL ORDER! AND YOU MUST SEE HER ATTITUDE AS A SYMPTOM OF HER STRUGGLE!

Now, they'll be some brothas who say, aw man, what kind of 'simptastic' crap is that? You're sayin' I shouldn't dislike this woman? 

What I'm saying is, here's what will happen to you if you just dismiss this sista as 'another bitter Black woman'...

First, you're gonna' cast aspersion on all Black women and think they're all like that, meaning you'll never have a good Black woman in your life, if you truly want one.

Second, you'll use this as a rationale on why you don't like being around Black people period; and this will reinforce the conditioning you have to hate your own kind.

Third, consciously or subconsciously, you'll use this to reinforce why you should hate yourself for being Black.

And this is no theory! I can say this will happen to you definitively 'cause I've done this myself!

This mentality was force-fed into us for one specific purpose; and that is for the Black Diaspora to hate itself...if you're a Black man or woman reading this, that includes you too!

Now, a clear example of how indulging in this kinda' hatred backfires on the person ingesting it, is the tale of Melissa Ortiz and Tommy Sotomayor themselves.

Melissa was a staunch advocate of Tommy's and made videos saying his diatribes about Black women were the gospel truth. As of late though, they are now feuding and talking about how much they can't stand each other.

And it serves that refried bean eatin', leaf blowin', orange-pickin' tramp right...ya' see, she tried to openly diss Black women by saying she was one of them, and being that Tommy hates Black women, she met his wrath too. 

Again, good for her a$$! 

Now consider this, if you're a Black man complaining that there's no Black women who are genial, demure and exquisitely feminine, then here's what you (and I) have to do. Get together with some other brothas and build a community where the only thing Black women have to concern themselves about is taking care of (their) children and keeping up the home you provide for them to take care of those children in. Period. This will more than likely ensure that these Black women will have the sweet demeanor of some white trust fund baby named Buffy. 

You can't expect a woman who's working two jobs, or extended hours on one of them consistently, raising kids alone and who never knew their father to be 'apple pie' sweet...that's crazy. 

But in order for us to do any of this...we HAVE TO GET RID OF OUR COLLECTIVE SELF-HATRED!

Now, I advocate meditative techniques to do this at the subconscious level, but if we can at least consciously see this has been done to us, we can start on the path to fixing it!

Black men, we have made strides individually...we have; now we need to make them collectively to benefit the whole of the diaspora.
 
I'm ready to put some work in...how 'bout you?

Sutekh!

MontUHURU Mimia

Sistas...why would you wanna' be a Black man's bride?

A couple of months back, I encountered a brotha who was known for being 'conscious' among his peers; he looked to be in his mid-thirties and hung in a cadre of other Black men who'd have deep philosophical debates.

So, one day I happened by a break-room and heard this guy conversing with a brotha who looked to be in his mid-to-late twenties; and the young brotha said to him, "What's the good word man...c'mon, tell me somethin'..."

What the younger brotha was nearly begging for was some factual information about the ingenuity of our ancestors. He was looking for spiritual nourishment; something to thwart all the negative conditioning he'd gotten in pre, middle and high schools that told him he and his people were nothing. 

I gotta' admit, I was chomping at the bit to tell the young brotha about Henry T. Sampson and the 'Gamma Electric Cell', or Dr. Phil Emeagwali getting the Gordon Bell Prize in 1989 for building the world's fastest computer, or the 'Djed Pillar Battery' coming out of ancient Kemet/Africa, which was the precursor to the modern day commercial battery...and the 'Djed Pillar' is where George Lucas (the creator of the 'Star Wars' franchise) got the term 'Jedi' from by the way...but you get where I'm coming from.

Only thing was, I wasn't in the conversation, so I didn't wanna' be rude and just cut in. So I watched what this older 'conscious' brotha was gonna' tell this young Black man, so he could essentially get what he needed to walk outta' there with his head up. 

And the older conscious brotha froze up. He didn't have a thing to offer the young brotha; mind you, these guys were friends. Now, maybe the older brotha had told him everything he'd known about our people's ingenuity, so he was factually spent; I don't know, so I just kinda' sighed and continued sipping my beverage. 

Then, the older brotha called over to me and said he'd liked an 'Afro-centric tchotchke' I had on my cubicle desk. That was all I needed to jump into the conversation...the damn burst and I went into my tirade about Henry T. Sampson, Dr. Phil Emeagwali, Elijah McCoy (the great Black inventor, where we get the term 'the real McCoy' from) etc. And to my surprise, every point I made to give this young brotha the spiritual satisfaction he needed, this older 'conscious' brotha shot down. 

When I mentioned the Sankore Madrasah in Timbuktu, Africa being the world's first university, the conscious brotha replied, "Wasn't that destroyed three years ago?"
I told him, while it did suffer some structural damage from people who didn't want the Black Diaspora to know about it, that doesn't negate the fact of it being the world's first university. Then, when I mentioned Henry T. Sampson and the 'Gamma Electric Cell', this conscious brotha was like, "Yeah, it's ashamed Henry sold out though." I not only reminded him that Henry owns the rights to the Gamma Electric Cell's Patent, but that our people, especially the young brotha he was talking to, needed to know how the Black Diaspora was capable of creating these inventions. 

That's when I realized, this guy was an anglophile posing as a 'conscious' brotha.  

I raise this point because a couple of days ago, a commenter who goes by the name 'Coco Sista' posed a question on my post titled 'The lowly nature of white women (Part 2) The Black man's spell'. She basically said she only goes out with white men because whether Black men are 'conscious' or not, they don't respect her or like her dark-skinned features, so why should she date one?

Man, I felt that...

And one of the main reasons it hit me in a very real place is 'cause when I was younger, I'd known darker-skinned Black brothas who went dateless weekend after weekend and had profound insecurities over being pariahs to the european standard of beauty. And I never got the story of how sistas were really going through this too, 'cause I don't have a biological sister, and I wasn't popular with women like that when I was younger. 

So, our young Black men and women are suffering from the same affliction, and not only don't they know it, but the person(s) making our young people suffer, are the very ones they seek out to make them feel better about themselves; i.e. white people. 

Coco...if you're reading this, I want you to know that's why I'm doing this 'work', for lack of a better term; it's because we both, BLACK MEN AND WOMEN, are conditioned to hate ourselves in the institutions of this pale-skinned degenerate and we DON'T COMMUNICATE THIS TO EACH OTHER, SO WE DON'T SEE IT!

It's imperative that Black men and women learn to see from a 'dual-gendered' perspective; so no Black man or woman thinks they're suffering like this on their own. As a Black man, I need to be able to see from more of a Black woman's perspective so I can relate a bit more to what she may be going through. Conversely, a Black woman needs to see a bit more from a Black man's perspective, so she understands how they may be suffering from the same feelings she does. 

If we don't do this...the consequences are what we're experiencing now, which is the total animosity and schism that exists between the Black man and woman. 

But let's get back to the main question which is, why should a sista wanna' be a Black man's bride? Or why would they even wanna' be in a long-term relationship with a brotha?

When you think about Black love being revolutionary, and I'm not only talking about this in a militaristic sense, you should know how when you're intimate with another Black man or woman, and your Black skin is rubbing up against one another...there's a non-verbal bonding that happens, where you both acknowledge the trimuphs and travails of being Black in the midst of all this white fascism. 

It's like your minds are speaking telepathically and saying, I know what you've been and are going through, at work, in your daily life, in your travels, and I've got a melanated balm to heal you and soothe your suffering. We know we've both endured the worst of what this life has to offer, and we're here at this moment to ease the pains of that daily grind; it's a symbiotic spiritual replenishing that your melanated bodies can offer each other, that you can't get from a white, spanish or asian person. This is what the right Black man can offer a Black woman. 

Now Coco...you've said that you have no interest in dating a Black man, point blank, period. So by all accounts you should hate this Blog, it's message and me. 

I mean, logically, you want to be with a good white man, one that treats you like a princess, and one who'll marry you, so you can both live happily ever after. 

So what is it you're looking for here?

You're looking for the spiritual sustenance the young brotha was looking for when he talked to the older 'conscious' brotha, who was really a white supremacist at heart. 

'Cause your melanated mind is trying to tell you something. It's making you see that the majority of our peers, who have university educations and degrees, are winding up oversexed and alone at 50, after spending decades being a sex toy for white people chasing that same dream you are. 

AND THIS GOES FOR BLACK MEN AND WOMEN!

And don't take my word for it, do the research, talk to your peers, Black women...and men; and see what they have to say. You say you're going to university soon, so you'll be able to see this up close and personal yourself. 

And I understand this is your time to experiment, so by all means do, just don't let yourself be abused by these people; 'cause you know where that road leads. You may not wanna' verbalize this to me or admit it to yourself, but you know what whitey has in store for collegiate Black men and women in terms of dating and long-term realationships. And it ain't nothing nice. 

Now, in regards to finding that right Black man...will it be easy...I'll say emphatically, NO. 

But is the needle in the haystack search for that man worth it...absolutely. Understand, that finding the right man, PERIOD, is a needle in the haystack search. 

But consider this, if that right Black man approached you at the university, would you give him a chance, or would you dismiss him in pursuit of one more white guy?

And I probably shouldn't say this, but at some point, I'm going to have to set up some sort of physical forum where 'truly conscious' Black people can meet. Now, I'm talking about Black people who are about the work of reconditioning themselves out of a white supremacist mind state through meditation. And I'm not trying to set up another 'e-harmony', but there's gotta' be a way where we can find each other easier, so we can start forming some stable Black 'nuclear families' again. But that'll be in the future when I have more resources. 

So Coco, I've said all that to ask this, are you willing to do the work of reconditioning yourself out of this white supremacist paradigm that's been force fed into us so you can find that right Black man? Or will you more than likely wind up another statistic like the overwhelming majority of collegiate Black men and women?

Again, it comes down to a choice. I've made mine...now which ever one you make, please put the work in to see if it will result in the best life for you.   

'Cause all the facts and history are there, it's now on you to choose wisely. 

Make the right choice Coco!

Ma'at Hotep, 

MontUHURU Mimia